Family health issues – Scared (long)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Cluelessbride10:  Definitely see someone through your EAP! I would hold off planning just until you get more information. I’ve gotten some “bad” news about my parents’ health, that turned out not to be as bad as we all assumed. You don’t know– so sort that part out first, then move forward. *hugs*

Post # 5
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Cluelessbride10:  My dad is ill and we had to change our wedding plans around. We aren’t changing the timing, just the location. It is nearly impossible to plan for unknowns because you just don’t know! I know how hard it is – I spent weeks in the hospital with my dad, just sitting there while he slept. It was the worst time of my life. But you still have to live your life for you and try to stay upbeat. Easier said than done, I know. PM me if you want to talk.

Post # 6
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Cluelessbride10:  So glad you are engaging EAP!  So many employees don’t know or refuse to engage EAP and it’s such a great service during times of stress.  If it’s not arthritis, have you been assessed for Lupus?  A lot of Lupus sufferers have arthritic symptoms.  I hope your mom and dad get positive news in the coming days and months.  Breast cancer can definitely be beat these, especially if it’s caught early.

Post # 7
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My mother had breast cancer… Twice. the big C word is not as scary as it once was with all the advances in medicine thankfully. To me “intermediate” does not sound like the oncologist or the surgeon think it is too bad. I will keep you and your mom in my thoughts. I hope you hear back that it is not as bad as you fear. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me.

Post # 11
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I can relate to this. My list of medical problems seems to be never ending, and the same goes for some of my closest family members. We all try our best to embrace the time that we have now and be thankful for every single day. Some days, that’s more difficult than others, but you don’t get this time back. Think about the future and plans, but not so much that you miss out on what you have right now. I wish you and your family the best.

My aunt has had breast cancer twice. We actually just had another scare last month. Medicine is so advanced now, and the word intermediate makes it sound manageable.

The results you guys get shouldn’t keep you from planning your wedding. I know that adds more stress, but it’s good to maintain normalcy. My family and I have taken the same stance as your mother. Just keep going. When we stop doing stuff and are no longer distracted, our condition seems to worsen. I don’t honestly think that it does, but it allows for us to feel worse about our situation. For us, it’s good to try to stay as normal as possible. I wish you and your family all of the luck that I possibly can.


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