Post # 1
Long story short, on my mother’s side of the family, there is one family with three cousins. I have not seen the oldest cousin or spoken to her (though receive updates on her kids every once in a while) in easily 10-15 years since she moved to a different state. We plan on inviting her two other siblings since I have been in much closer contact with them. Am I obligated to invite the older sibling too? We are a bit tight in terms of guest list so this would mean 2 less people to invite (her and her husband). If however, inviting 2 and not the 3rd sibling is a huge no, no then we will include her.
Interested to know your thoughts but I have a feeling I know the answer.
Post # 2
I’d say no. At this point, would you even recognize each other?
Post # 3
TTReverie: I agree with PP, if you haven’t seen or spoken to her in THAT long I highly doubt you ‘have’ to invite her.
PABride: Haha, that was my question too!
Post # 4
TTReverie: Sorry, but I think it would be hurtful to invite 2 of 3 siblings. You said she sends occasional updates on her kids, that’s contact. I’d invite her. Not inviting her would put her siblings (and parents if they’re invited) in a very awkward position. If you’re really not that close, she probably won’t come and you’ve got your 2 seats back, but I would invite and be prepared in case they say yes.