(Closed) Family is against wedding (long vent)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow, I know they’re your family, but if they’re so against the wedding, do you really want them there? It sounds like you might have a better time if only supportive people show up on the day.

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@grapecrush:  My Mom-Mom wasn’t too fond of my wedding (not nearly as harsh as yours though).  Everytime I spoke with her it wasn’t something new – i.e. “Why can’t you just do it in your parents’ backyard?”  or “Why are you spending so much money, that’s ridiculous” or “It costs HOW MUCH per plate?”  It didn’t take long to realize I had to stop talking details with her.

Old people are set in their ways and you aren’t going to change them, so don’t bother.  DO NOT discuss the wedding with them.  Send them an invite when the time comes.  If they decline… “Too bad Nana and Papa, we’ll miss you.” 

Old people annoy me sometimes.  I hope I’m not a crotchety old curmudgeon when I’m old.

Post # 5
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You sound like you are close to them…have you asked why they are so against your getting married?

Post # 6
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38 posts
Newbee

Wow. This can’t be real. 

Post # 8
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1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What the heck? I don’t get it. if they are so against weddings and children, then why did they get married and have children themselves? They sound like they were good to you while you were in college, so they can’t be soooo bad. I just don’t get why they’d be so upset with your mom and why they are being this cruel with you. Have they ever been cruel like this with you before?

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@grapecrush:  

This is the weirdest thing I’ve heard.  Most grandparents are pushing for marriage and babies.  That’s what older people tend to value.  Wanting their 32 year old married daughter to get an abortion??  Why?  Where are you from, is there some sort of cultural thing I’m missing?  If not, they sound certifiably insane.

Post # 10
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481 posts
Helper bee

Sounds like they’re confused. 

Post # 11
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1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow. sucks that they are both hell bent on spending the rest of their lives making people they supposedly love unhappy. Point taken, they don’t like weddings. It’s one day, get over it grandma/grandpa! why are they so wrapped up in details so much if they hate the whole concept? They sound very immature, unhappy and manipulative. Ugh.

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