Family Issues (Vent – Long)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, I would write the whole lot of them off.

 

Post # 4
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@futuremrsndl:  Your father has passed and you never had a good relationship with your step-mom to begin with. Without your father in the picture there is no reason you should have to work things out with her. She’s not family. If your actual family has a problem with that, then it’s their problem, not yours. Do what makes you happy and ignore the rest of them.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow 🙁 I can relate with some things because of FI’s family.

Sometimes, as we’re realizing, we all really need to learn to let people go. And sometimes the people that we thought and hoped that we could trust disappoint. You need to enforce boundaries. We’re cutting off contact with more people than we ever thought we would have to – but that’s what we need to do to make ourselves happy.

It is really hard to deal with peoples’ completely inaccurate perceptions of us – but what can we do? The truth does become more obvious with time, but why would you want to have a relationship with people who have so little regard and respect for you that they would believe this nonsense?

Please do yourself a favor and distance yourself from these people. I’m sure you have people who love you – and that’s what you need.

The only reason you would need to talk to her is if you wanted to get something off of your chest – but really, I don’t think it is going to sort out problems. People like your aunt are KIDDING themselves. They think that those of us who are victimized somehow owe it to the people who have mistreated us to get along. We don’t. That is SO wrong.

Don’t let people disrespect you any longer – enforce your boundaries and if they can’t respect your choices, then they need to be gone.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@futuremrsndl:  So I take it your aunt is your late father’s sister?

I think you should correct your aunt on her facts if you haven’t already.

I think you should to try to have a relationship with your half sister. Since she’s 13, she probably has facebook. You could bypass her mom and contact her that way.

Given the evil way your stepmom has treated you over the years, I see no reason to talk to her and sort things out. If your aunt presses you, I would list some of the things she’s done you

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