(Closed) Family issues….NWR

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You most certainly can have some encouragement.  First off, congrats on what sounds like an awesome change of events for you!  Second, you and FI are now your own little family and that should mean your born into family should respect your decisions.  When I told my (estranged) father I was moving, he seriously wanted to discuss my decision with my mother he’d been divorced from for 10+ years!!!!!  It was so ridiculous I had to laugh.

Post # 4
Member
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Don’t sabotage the chance of a better career because your parents will be upset. Four hours isn’t that bad; it isn’t like you’re moving to a different country or something. Congrats on the new job, and I hope everything works out for you!

Post # 6
Member
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You have to do your own thing and what makes you guys happy. Parents get an influence when you are young, but now you are old enough to be your own boss 🙂

Post # 8
Member
3381 posts
Sugar bee

@kansas_nurse:  Congratulations on the new jobs, new house and new start in life! And everything else…screw it!

Post # 10
Member
7885 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kansas_nurse:  It’s time your mom cut the umbilical cord. You’re 100% doing the right thing and don’t let family guilt you. p.s. I remember your old posts, good on you for escaping that toxic situation.

Post # 11
Member
930 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

It’s always a sad day when you find out that your parents are just normal people, and therefore can be selfish arseholes like everyone else.

I’m sorry that they can’t just be happy for you.  Perhaps that is a question you can ask them, a simple ‘Why can’t you be happy for me?’

Also concentrate on one of the many great things about being an adult, that you don’t have to expose yourself to their negativity.

Post # 12
Member
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your mother has no control over you anymore. You are an adult, you can make your own decisions. Congratulations to you and your partner on your amazing job opportunities! Please don’t feel guilted into staying where you are. You’re doing a good thing for your sister. Don’t be made to feel bad for what you’re doing!! It’s a great opportunity, take it!

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