(Closed) Family keeps inviting more people!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Time for FI to step up and tell her that unless she’s paying for all of those people, they will not be in attendance!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Don’t send an invite. Unless YOU invited them, it’s not an invitation. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ah. I had this problem also. Fi’s mom was inviting family friends and we were like hold up we can’t afford all these people, then she offered to help pay and everything was great! Then she invited her hairdresser, I wasn’t as annoyed as my fi was, he pulled her aside and said I appreciate your help but this is our wedding and were only inviting people WE are close to. She totally understood, it’s been great since and they’re still helping us pay for the wedding. Just tell ur fmil that you guys are on a budget seeing as how no one will be helping out and that with a smaller budget there are only certain people you can afford to invite. Either she offers to help or backs off.. Win win either way 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@thefuturemrsD:  ugh! That sucks. Well, you just send invites to who is on your list and if they ask where their invite is just politely tell them that you would have loved to have them there, but that you have unfortunately already met the limit for your venue! They can’t argue with that! I hope lol

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@dmk90716:  This!

Just don’t send them an invite. 

 

Given how dense she’s been about this, I would flat out say, “The caterer is charging us $X per plate. We’ve budgeted X amount for catering, and we’re already at that number. If you’d like your friends to be there, then you’ll have to contribute the extra money.”

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You just need to sit her down and explain to her that you can’t pay for all these people and that as much as you wish everyone could come, it is just infeasable. It is your wedding and you have the say as to who comes and who doesn’t! 

Why don’t you give her a certain number of people she can invite and tell her if she goes over this, she WILL be paying the extra.

Good luck!

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