- Statutory Grape
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
Today, my aunt-mom asked when FH’s lease is up and when I told her, she suggested that we move in with her and Gran to save up money. Now, this seems like a really generous offer, but I’m concerned about a few things.
1) She’s fairly religious and the way of life I’ve known for the past (almost) six months would be totally shaken up. It’d be separate beds again for sure (I have a really hard time sleeping without FH there now!) and since she doesn’t work (she takes care of my grandma full-time), we wouldn’t be able to have any, erm, alone time.
2) She was totally against me moving out back in April but I eventually just did it –hey, I’m 21. I’m an adult.
3) She’s always saying things like, “Well, maybe he could move back home (to WI–his hometown is like 2 hours away) until the wedding to save money.”
4) She has a paranoid streak and I don’t know if I want to be stuck in that environment 24/7. The craziness was a BIG part of why I left.
That being said, I would be able to take care of Gran and my aunt could go back to work, at least part-time. But then again, we only live 10 minutes away, so it’s not like we never visit them. Also, we have two cats who would be constantly stirring up mayhem and getting underfoot (Grandma broke her hip when I was young and can’t get around so well anymore). But the thought of saving an extra $500 a month is mighty appealing…
I’m still thinking “No” because I love the life FH and I have together, though it’s difficult at times. But it’s tricky. I haven’t talked to him yet (he’s at work) and I’m wondering if I should even mention it.
But if you were me, just for kicks…what would you do?
EDIT: This isn’t the same aunt who calls FH my “boyfriend.”