- 5 years ago
My fiancee’s family is just too effing big….there I said it. I wanted a small wedding…I have to have a low budget wedding, and my fiancée has a monster family, which honestly I only want about half that he has invited on the list….I have had to cut several close friends for them, so I am pissed. I am about to scream….it doesnt help that he asked his nephew who is a jerk to be a groomsman…I hate the guy….he is rude…immature. ..and an all out loser…if it werent his nephew id tell the ass what I thought of him.
I am also being pushed majorly by my family to keep my budget down….instead of having my dream….I am having my nightmare….my mom talks about her mother of the bride dress and in the same breath tells me to figure out how to do flowers on my own, do the bar, get rid of a dance, which pissed off fmil, oh and make sure I make the day special for her and my dad since its their anniversary, to create my cenerpieces all to s
ave money…knowing full well I am working full time and
then some,training for a marathon and have no creativity….while it is stated that no expense will be too great for the flower girl dress for myneice.
I think what is getting to me yhe most is thatwhen I try to do things to lower costs my fiancée and his fam dont get it. And my family makes me feel guilty for getting married again. His family wnats me to fly across the country multiple times for receptions and a shower…at my expense… so the whole family can celebrate…note that I am not loaded, and cant afford 1000 in extra plane tix….moreover I hate big parties….especially with people I dont know. My family says things like, wellyou already got married. you dont need xyz. Gee thanks I suppose I dont deserve to be happy either.
….at this point I give up….this is no longer my wedding. Its more a stressful nightmare than anything. I love my fiancee and my family,but this is too much. I honestly dont think a single one of them has thought about me in this whole time. Its as though I am a bystander in my wedding.