(Closed) family member's alternative lifestyle

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know enough about BDSM to comment.  But I do wish she was comfortable to discuss it with you so you could ask questions.  I guess you could ask her about the ‘rules’ in her relationship and see if she opens up? Is your mom comfortable with you squealing on her?  If she is, go that route. Although, from what I have been told, BDSM folks are quite happy with the arrangements usually.

Edit – and if you can find this stuff online…totally problematic.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Unfortunately your sister is an adult and has to make these choices for herself. Other than expressing concern, there isn’t much to be done here.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is a bit out of my reach as well. I wonder if there are BDSM support sites you can gain insight from? To me, thats the issue that would worry me the most, the poly lifestyle seems like nbd.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Given your sister’s relationship and psychiatric history, I’d be concerned, too.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

How old are they?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@smcs28:  I honestly don’t know if she would freak out but that was my next thing….either talk to your own shrink or call up hers. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe suggest that you go with her for the next session?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

although it DOES sound like she has mental health issues…

 

In a true BDSM “relationship”  the sub is in control.  If the Dom is getting out of control, there should be a code word, non sex related…  Not “stop”  but more like “drawer” for instance.  Therefor if they are in a TRUE BDSM relationship, this is how it should be…

That being said..  bruises can happen before ‘drawer’ is said.  Unintentionally. 

I would just talk to her about the scenario I just described to you and see how it turns out.  If she has been in abusive relationships before, this is a main concern for certain!

 

 

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