(Closed) FAMILY MEMBERS, STOP GIVING ME SUGGESTIONS.

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2810 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

haha! both my mom and his mom are trying to make me “give up control” of everything.

um, no. my wedding, my choices. 

just smile and nod, and thank them for their opinions.

Post # 4
Member
1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@regit45:  “Thank you for the suggestion but FI and I have already decided on that”. Wash, rinse, repeat!

Hang in there and a feel free to “not hear your phone ringing” 🙂

Post # 5
Member
2091 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@regit45:  This is a list of things my big sister says I have got wrong so far:

Venue

Menu

Seating plan

Number of guests

Date

Time of ceremony

Cake design

Order I walk down the aisle

Centrepieces

Showing my dress to FMIL (even though we are very close)

 

I’ve since learnt that it makes more sense to just stop asking people for their opinion. Where they volunteer it, I simply nod and say thats a good idea and forget it!

Post # 6
Member
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@regit45:  Smile and nod.  I found it helped if I didn’t talk about any wedding related stuff that wasn’t already decided/booked.  That way people couldn’t comment (well, they could still comment, but they couldn’t influence the decision).

Post # 7
Member
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@regit45:  I just wouldn’t share ideas with them anymore. Otherwise do what a PP suggested, “Thanks for your input, but Fi and I already have it figured out.”

Post # 8
Member
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

The more you talk about the more people think you want to include them and that they can have an opinion on the matter. I found if people asked questions, vague answers and changing the subject helped.

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