Family missing the point.

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Oh I think I would be getting afraid, too! And I get the not wanting to be bridezilla. You’d just wish these people realized these things on their own.

What if you have your wedding coordinator email them with an itinerary for the day before rehearsal?  That way it comes from a third-party; they won’t blame you for being bossy and perhaps they’ll take more stock to the instructions if it’s from someone “official” 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@whitekitty86:  There are so many details in planning a wedding to be worried about. Wasting energy worrying about something that hasn’t happened isn’t one of htme.

Give the wedding party an agenda for the day before and the day of the wedding, then drop the issue. They are adults. Hopefully they will show up to the rehearsal on time, but you really can’t dictate that they do nothing else that day.

Even if the worst comes to the worst and they miss the rehearsal, being in a wedding party is not rocket science. Someone can fill them in with about 60 seconds of instructions.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@whitekitty86:  Are you having a super complicated ceremony?  Because rehearsal REALLY isn’t a big deal otherwise….

They probably paid a good amount to fly to be at your wedding, I know you appreciate that, but let them squeeze in some fun time while you work on wedding stuff. They will be there and be so happy for you on your wedding day!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@whitekitty86:  I got in a car accident a few hours before my rehearsal.  needless to say with all of the planning in the world (and I am a super organized planner), I missed my own rehearsal and so did my mom and our flower girls (they were in the car with me.)  We easily figured out what we needed to do the day of the wedding and everything was fine.  Stop worrying about other people whom you have no control over.  Five them an agenda, let them know you would like for them to be there on time so they will know what to do the day of the wedding, and then spend your time focusing on things that are actually within your control.  If they miss it, oh well.  In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn’t matter.  All that matters is that you are there, your groom is there, and your officiant is there to marry you.

This is my second marriage and with all honesty any mistakes that are made will make you upset on the day but they make for hilarious stories a few years later when you realize it didn’t matter.

Post # 9
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@whitekitty86:  It was a minor fender bender and thankfully nobody was hurt but when I called for the police they heard my stepdaughter and baby sister in the background so they sent fire trucks to make sure everyone was okay.  We barely made it to dinner that night.  The girl in the car behind us at a stoplight was lighting up her cigarette and texting on her phone instead of paying attention so she didn’t see the redlight.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

We got married in Vegas, the bachelor party was the night before rehearsal, and 1/2 of the bridal party were English and wanted to drink/sightsee/pool party nonstop. They all managed to make it to the rehearsal. If they can do it, anyone can!

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