- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
So my FI proposed a few weeks ago; we will have our ‘public’ engagement announcement sometime this summer when he has my ring. We are both in our late-30’s. This will be my 3rd marriage (First – 14 years – abusive; Second – 1 year – he ran off with another woman) … and FI’s 1st marriage. His family is ELATED about it all!!!
While we are planning a 2016 wedding, because we are paying for everything ourselves we have started trying to put together a budget so we can get an idea of how much we will need to save over the next year. One of the BIG questions is number of people. We know his entire family will be there, but my family didn’t attend my 2nd wedding, and have already made comments about the third. Not that I can blame them. It’s just hard though with his family so excited.
I keep thinking about how WEIRD it is going to be with his family there and not mine. His father was even mentioned as a possibility to walk me down the aisle.
I DESPERATELY just want to do something very quiet just the two of us so I don’t have to have another wedding without my family present. They didn’t attend the second one because they wanted nothing to do with it since I had *GASP* gotten divorced. … But his family is expecting a wedding – with all the trimmings.
Guess I’m just wondering if any other Encore Brides have been through something similar, and how did you figure it all out when the emotions started surging during the planning phase?