Post # 1
Hello out there! I swear I am not a whiny person all the time, but I am very upset by my family. I recently (well, in March) got engaged to my wonderful boyfriend of 2 years to whom my family loves. However, after we got engaged I immediately and slowly began planning the wedding. We set it to June 12,2010. However, none of my family is excited or helpful towards the wedding planning process. Every time I ask my mothers opinion she responds with “whatever” or “thats ok”. My sister, also the MOH, is a little more interested in the wedding, but still would rather not to be bothered by anything. Besides my FI, I feel really alone in this. I am having to plan, decide, and pay for everything on my own without any support from my family. I have no idea what to do and I have no clue why they are this way? It is breaking my heart.
Post # 3
are you a independant type of person? if youre like me i usually dont share info with people so they tend not to approach me if they know me well
otherwise i guess because people that are not directly involved in a wedding have very little understanding or appreciation of how much planning goes into one, they might be thinking oh June is ages away when in fact its going to be here so quickly its scary (and you def understand that part)
what if you ask them to help you with small tasks like looking at invites ect? maybe then they might get with the program?
Post # 4
Ya, I agree that it is probably just because it seems so far away! I have pretty much everything planned out and go over details all the time and the majority of my friends/family make fun of me for having so much done already. Seriously, they laugh at me. Especially when I mentioned that I knew what breakfast I wanted the day of! haha
Post # 5
I felt like this when I started wedding planning. My family didn’t seem really interested in planning with me or my ideas about the wedding. It took me a while to realize that no one was going to be quite as excited about my wedding as I am. Sort of sad, but I figured that if they were too interested, they would drive me nuts with their own plans and opinions. Being less involved seemed better than the alternative. And, now that the wedding is getting closer they are more interested in the details.
I’m sorry that you feel your family is excited or helpful. I hope they come around. Until then, try to enjoy the process. If you want, you might be able to get some people interested by sharing your research with them. I started emailing my mom the links to stuff I liked, that way she knew what I was thinking about abd started to come around to being interested.
Post # 6
thanks for all the help ladies. i am the independent type. i work full time and am studying to be a lawyer so i have very little family time. it makes me feel better i guess to know that it is my wedding and no one will probably be AS excited as myself. makes total sense! thanks again!
Post # 7
I feel the same way and am getting a similar reaction from my family… but, what I’ve found helpful is to pick out one very specific aspect of the wedding and ask “X” for their opinion on it. ie: what do you think of these fonts, or, this is what I’m thinking of doing for menu choices. I find that when I do it that way, I get more of enthused feedback than just generic wedding talk. Some people are much more in tuned to being excited with you – and once you find who those people are for you, gravitate toward them!
Post # 8
give ’em time. my mom didn’t give a flying hoot about my wedding until 3 months before–when it came time for HER to buy HER dress and for her to buy flowers, etc. THEN she got psyched. SHe was super “EJS< do what you want it’s your wedding” and then would change the subject, so it’s ok! they’ll come around