(Closed) Family not too thrilled with venue

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hey, as long as you and your Fiance love it that’s all that matters! If they are not too thrilled about having to help set up I just wouldn’t have them help with that. Do you have other bridal party members who have offered help? 

I don’t understand thier problem with it being the same venue your cousin got married in… Is it because they want you to have something unique? If that’s the case it’s just silly. The way you decorate it will make a BIG difference between the weddings anyway. A lot of my family members have used the same venues and I don’t think any of their guests have cared.

Post # 4
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This is your day and you’re entitled to have your wedding where you want to.  If they don’t want to help, then they don’t have to.   Glad you found a venue that you like.  Happy Planning!

Post # 5
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with the other pp’s. This is YOUR day, not theirs! And if you love your venue, and from the sounds of it both you and your Fiance love it, then by all means have it there and enjoy it! And on a bonus side, it sounds like a beautiful venue! I would soooo love to have done a rustic barn venue with tons of mason jars and stuff like that, but my Fiance was definitely not thrilled with that idea lol

Post # 6
8359 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t understand their negativity towards the barn location just because your cousin got married there- that to me is a little weird.

But I agree with them about the set up and pack down. It is a lot to ask of people and they are probably concerned that it will be a lot of work and stress for you and them on your wedding day. And you really shouldn’t tell people that they have to do that for you- if they offer well great!

I would just let them know that they do not need to set up/pack down unless they want to and leave it at that.


Post # 7
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Oooo, your venue sounds fantastic! Love it! Not sure why your sisters are being such pains…. are you asking them to help set up the chairs, is that why? 

You could always hire someone to do set up/break down, which would take some stress off of you on the wedding day.

Post # 8
12882 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is your day, and if it’s the venue you want, go for it.  But, to defend your sisters, I’d be really annoyed to have to set up tables and chairs, especially if I was in the wedding party.  Can’t you ask the caterer to do that?

Post # 9
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Finding a great venue you love isn’t easy, so those girls need to get over it.  If this is the worst thing in their lives that they have to complain about, they should be thankful.  Now, have a great time at your barn wedding and FWIW, I think it sounds like it’s going to be awesome and I wish I could attend!  =o)

Post # 10
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TortillaGirl:  I wouldn’t think your sisters would need to be involved in setting up chairs. I’d leave that up the menfolk and the women can go get their hair/nails done? If you are setting up in the morning. Maybe your sisters can be involved in decorating/flower arranging instead?

Post # 11
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

It sound like a very nice venue. If your sisters are that miffed about setup, tell them they don’t have to (it sounds like your fiance’s family would have no problems helping). Yah it’s not really fair, but if it will stop their whining…

Also a PP mentioned if you have to do it the morning of, you girls will probably be busy getting all dolled up anyway.

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