- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I have basically done my entire wedding alone. Ive not had any DIY or asked anyone for anything except opinions on stuff occasionally. Close family is always saying “If you need any help, dont hesitate to ask!” There are a few things I will need help with leading up to the wedding that I wont be able to do myself due to time constraint or taking photos/getting Makeup/hair done, etc, etc… They will be small things like I need someone to go to the venue early and make sure the bar is set up, the linens/tables are set up, my florist put the centerpieces up & the big floral arrangements are by the alter, the cake is set up with the right flowers, the aisle runner is laid out, & put the guestbook/card holder out. Also maybe putting signs on the Bride & groom chairs, small things like this. Basically to make sure all of my vendors are doing things right.
My venue sets up tables, chairs, linens, flatware, buffet, & bar.
My florist sets up centerpieces, & floral arrangements around the alter.
My cake lady sets up the cake with flowers on it.
So basically I need a family member to pop in and make sure everything looks great and places a few small decor things there.
I also have asked them to possibly make the favors for me the week of the wedding which are chocolate dipped oreos. Ive heard its pretty simple & some of my family loves to bake for christmas, holidays, etc, so it seemed pretty logical.
Anyways, when Ive asked my family or close people for help in overseeing these things the day of, I get a weird excuse everytime. They dont just say, “Sure! I will make sure its all done correctly” I get these offputting responses like they arent interested or “someone” will do it. Well who the hell is that someone? We only have the venue from 2-11 and the wedding starts at 5 so thats 2-3 hours for them to setup and I will be in hair/makeup at the hotel so how could I go to make sure this is all ok? I just dont see why people OFFER help,and then act weird when you take up their offer to help with small things?? It makes me feel sad and unsupported at times and reminds me why Im planning this entire wedding by myself unfortunately.
Anyone else have an experience like this?? I cant be alone…