Family "officiant"

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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1473 posts
Bumble bee

I think it’s fine. I’ve been to a wedding where the parents married the children. That was interesting, but since there were 4 people doing it, there was a LOT of talking. So if you have multiple people doing the ceremony, just make sure that it doesn’t go on forever and they keep everyone’s attention!

Post # 4
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2566 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I will be doing that for my wedding! We’re going to ask a friend or family member to be officiated.  I don’t want to pay for it, pluc it will be an intimate wedding of only about 20 guests anyways… why have a bunch of people there we don’t know?  

Post # 5
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 eecuadrado:  I think it’s a great idea, but I’m biased, because my dad was our officiant. I have a close relative who is a minister, but he and I have always butted head as we both have very strong personalities (aaaaaaaand… he’s a douche). I only have one person in my life who is strongly religious and whose faith I truly respect, and that’s my dad, so I figured why not have him marry us? It was absolutely wonderful–he spoke to the guests before the ceremony started about what would happen, then walked me down the aisle. I wouldn’t change it for a thing.

Edit: Our ceremony was 15-20 minutes 🙂

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Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I love it and hope to be doing the same, for similar reasons. Will you have ceremony programs? If so you could put in a few playful words about who will be marrying you and why.

Post # 8
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760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

We had our dads marry us. Our ceremony was about a half hour long. Our moms each had a part of the ceremony as well – my mom beaded a ribbon to use for our handfasting, MIL did a sciency reading (she’s a microbiologist), and SMIL did our ringwarming. We heard from a lot of people that it was the most emotional ceremony they’d seen because it was our families (BIL was best man, my brother was the Man of Honor, standing next to my best friend of 15+ years as my MOH). If you want to, you should DEFINITELY go for it!

Post # 10
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

eecuadrado:  Great, good luck and be sure to take a pic and show us the finished products if you do 🙂

Post # 11
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302 posts
Helper bee

eecuadrado:  Every single one of my family members (except one) has been married by another family member. It’s actually a family tradition so I didn’t even know it was weird until recently. I LOVE it. It’s intimate, and personal and comfortable and never feels staged or rehearsed because it’s all so honest. When they talking about “knowing you as a couple” they really do know  you. I want my wedding to be officiated by a family member too! 

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