- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Oh where to begin????
Well….FI and I are both the first in our generation on each side to get married and EVERYBODY has been super excited for us and for the wedding. His cousin even went as far to say that she is so happy about the wedding she feels like she is the one gettng married. lol.
Planning has been stressful from just about Day 1. We were buying a house and trying to plan the wedding at the same time to no avail. We had to change our date several times due to hating the exclusive caterer at the venue so we changed venues, the new venue promising us a date that wasn’t available, was going to elope, but changed our mind once our family finally spoke up and said they wanted to be present and we have finally settled on our current venue and date. I sent our our save the dates back at the beginning of June and I am SURE everyone close knew the date and wedding information before than as well. But for some reason, I have had ppl call and tell me left and right that they are not sure if they can make it to the wedding for one reason or another.
My Parents – Are divorced, but both are going through financial issues. They each promise they will figure out how to get here. Mom lives in Arizona and Dad in South Carolina.
My Grandfather and his wife – They live in TX and have already reserved a trip to Vegas to hang out with his brother (THEY ARE RETIRED!! They can go ANYTIME they want.)
My Aunt and 2 older cousins – They live in South Carolina – Due to low funds and my aunt possibly teaching a seminar the same weekend of my wedding she might not be able to come
Fi’s older sister – Lives in NY – Fi JUSt told me he spoke to her today and she says “I hope I will be able to make it to your wedding.” ?!?!?
The REAL REASON for this rant is: Fi’s PARENTS!!!! – Lives in NY – (* Fi’s biological mom passed from breast cancer when he was 12 and since his relationship with his Dad is semi-strained. BUT has gotten alot better since I’ve been in the picture.)
Spoke to his Step Mom Friday to check her schedule for the date of my bridal shower and she says that she doesnt know if she can make it as she does not like long drives ( its only 3 1/2 hrs to MD AND she JUST came back from a trip to NC.) So I say okay and change the subject. I ask her what size her daughter (Fi’s 4 yr old half sister) wears as I am looking at flower girl dresses. She says “Why? I didn’t know she was in the wedding.” I pause and then politely remind her that we all had a conversation the month after we got engaged asking if her daughter could be our flower girl. She said she doesn’t remember it and that the conversation might not have actually happened…. *cue my irritation. So I ask her again on the phone. “Can _daughter_ be a flower girl in our wedding?” Her reply, “…..well idk. I’d have to take _son_ out of school. And I don’t want be driving all day and then be tired that night for the wedding. I’ll have to take to my husband about all of this and we’ll let you know.”
WHAT THE HELL DOES TAKING YOUR SON OUT OF SCHOOL HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR DAUGHTER BEING IN HER BROTHER’S WEDDING?!?! I mean she’d have to take him out of school anyway as the wedding is on a Friday night and they live in NY and we live in Maryland. The way the conversation went, I am not even 100% sure they will even be at the wedding. Fi and his brother aren’t suprised and Fi says he doesn’t care if they come or not… but who does that?!?
I have been stressing that we invited too many ppl and now we’ll have open seats, but the most important ppl wont be in them. WTF! I’m like so pissed and so annoyed and FI doesn’t really want to talk about it because he kinda already expected his family to act like this. Here I am trying to get in with my FMIL and make an effort and she keeps feeding me excuses….. UGH!!
I guess I’m upset across the board because my family is much closer than that and for my Aunt, cousins and GRANDFATHER to possibly not be at my wedding?? That just baffles me. And for Fi’s step mother to be like this… now? Man idk.
Sorry for the long post, but I just really needed to vent to someone who will listen. :o(