Family only wedding and reception; no friends invited to either

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
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Bumble bee

 

@TwoOneFive:  we were gong to, but I’m closer to some of my friends then I am to family, so we didn’t do it

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Helper bee

I am definately closer to my friends than family. I may talk to my family once in a blue moon, but friends weekly. My friends would probably take it pretty hard. Just depends on your friends.

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Buzzing bee

@TwoOneFive:  I am having a family only wedding with hopefully less than 40 guest. I explained it to all my friends in an email.  Some Bees thought that was tacky but I felt like these friends deserved an additional explanation other than just no invitation. They all took it well with the exception of my one single close friend because she introduced us. The others understood I think mainly because they were all married and knew how expensive a wedding with both friends and family would be.

Also, they all knew I didn’t want to have a wedding and FI’s mother is doing the vast majority of the planning and funding. 

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Blushing bee

Just curious is there a specific reason you are wanting an only family wedding? I am having a tiny wedding of only 20 people and although it is almost all family- I had to have my 2 best friends as my MOHs to keep me sane! If an only family wedding is what you and your FI want then I say it’s your day make it look like you want it too.

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Bee Keeper

Well, in a way it will make it easier, I think, because then you won’t have to pick and choose which friends to invite… less of a chance of them being offended if they’re all being treated in the same way!

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Bumble bee

@TwoOneFive:  Maybe you and your FI can have a “reception” type of party after the two of you are married? Just a thought and it keeps everyone happy? :)  

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Busy Beekeeper

Our wedding was only family and the bridal party (some friends). I thought it was a good balance – inviting friends can add a lot of people to the guest list. 

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Blushing bee

Well all of those are valid reasons. My fiance does noy like being the center of attention either so he wanted a smaller wedding. I agreed to it but then we were having a hard time making distinctions and draing lines about which friends and family. That is a good part of why we picked the destination wedding. We picked a place that we loved and it had a package for 18 guests and the bride and groom. When we counted up who we wanted there (immediate family + 2 best friends) it was exactly 18. It was great that we could spend time with our families together and have my 2 friends there for me. We did decide when we get back to have a big party for everyone- but this is going to be really casual like a picnic or BBQ 2 monthes later over the summer.

 

Again if you want just family and are fine with no friends then do it!! Once you have the lines drawn it makes it a lot less stressful. Good Luck!

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Blushing bee

@TwoOneFive:  we are having family plus invited a few best friends each he has 4 that can make it, i have none coming for various reasons. im so happy it willl be pretty much family it just feels better somehow. ours ix in the town where my family lives & all our friends r in our hometown (500 miles) so that was sort of a good excuse too that we didnt want to expect people to travel all that way, we will be having a housewarming party (just bought a house) & show photos for those who want to c when we get back. also a heap of people we know r doing the same everyone knows how expensive weddings can be & most people totally understand.

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Buzzing bee

@TwoOneFive:  I know, it’s so silly when they say, “It’s your day, do what you want as long as we’re invited.” So far, only one friend seems offended that she wasn’t invited. She’s the one who introduced us but like you said, we had to draw the line somewhere. Our best friends aren’t even invited. We had to keep it consistent. 

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Helper bee

My cousin had her wedding as a family only ceremony and reception and she had a huge BBQ mini recepion type of thing at her house with her FI and invited all their friends over for drinks and some food. She said it was really relaxed and chill, but she did give an invitation to everybody for the party at her house a month or two before. She said it overall was a successful party, so maybe try something like this?

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