(Closed) Family only wedding and reception; no friends invited to either

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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60 posts
Worker bee

Even though we’re not “officially” engaged, we have decided to take this route, too. The only friend who will be invited is his childhood bff since they promised to be each others’ best man.  That’s also the only groomsman he will have and my sister will be my MOH and only bridesmaid.

We decided we’d rather have less people there and give them a great time than have a bunch of people there and give them a mediocre time. Nothing is set in stone, as far as deposits go, but we will definitely be doing a 16 guest wedding. We couldn’t be happier, so as far as people getting upset, I’d just tell them “tough cookies”. Laughing

Post # 4
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@TwoOneFive: This is the route I am headed. I started a thread about this last week because it doesn’t seem to be the norm. Although it looks as if we may possibly end up keeping our four bridesmaids and groomsmen on the list…but then that leads to a discussion about their plus ones too! LOL if you don’t mind me asking, what made you come to this decision? Ours was a number of reasons: finances, me not wanting a million people watching me and making me uncomfortable, and a strained relationship with some of my “friends.”

Post # 6
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I never understood this. I don’t think family is superior to friends.

Post # 8
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2945 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

My cousin did this just last year. People were a little annoyed at her, but its all they could afford to have. In the end everyone understood that its their wedding. Their were no lost friendships. Everyone got over it after the wedding. True friends will understand. 

Being said our family is small so their were only 25 of us.  

Post # 9
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1831 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@bebero:  Same here.

If I could, I would choose to have a *friends* only reception and exclude our families, ha!

Post # 10
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@TwoOneFive:  I can relate 100%! I feel like I could have written that response myself, lol. Glad to see I’m not the only one dealing with this type of situation. Good luck to you with your plans!

Post # 11
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219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

We’re hoping to do the same thing (except not even my siblings)! Two of my brothers and sisters-in-law did the same thing, and there were no hard feelings. I think if it’s very clear that it’s a limited guest list, then there aren’t any hurt feelings.

Post # 12
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60 posts
Worker bee

“As for my friends, some of them haven’t even talked to me in months and then get mad about not being invited.  I don’t understand it.  If you’re a true friend, you should be in good contact no matter what occasion is on the horizon.”

^This as well. A lot of my “friends” I only have contact with a few times a year. I worry that they would want to be invited. But if I worried about what everyone else wanted I would have more guests than I knew what to do with. You have to draw the line somewhere and I like knowing that everyone at my wedding will get to know their in-laws and will always be a part of our lives.

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