Family out of state – how do you and SO find time/money to take vacations?

posted 2 years ago in Travel
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We make them visit us.  Seeing our families once a year is all we feel we need.  If they visit us, we don’t need to go see them!  And some years, it just doesn’t work out for us to travel… so if they want to see us, it’s even more of a reason for them to come.  Plus, they need vacations too!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I live on massachusetts my family is in cali so we usually go for my bday. the air fair is cheap in feb which is my birth month luckily for me. he isnt really close to his. but its hard.for me as my sister had a baby last year and my brothers fiance is pregnant now. 🙁

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We keep an eye out on fare sales and travel within those dates. Sometimes it means shorter trips and odd weekends but we save a lot of money that way. Otherwise, like a PP mentioned, we see them when they visit us.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’re super lucky that our company doesnt do many of the random long weekend or one day holidays and puts them all at the end of the year so we always get Xmas – New Years off, and with 3 more days vacation time we have 2 full weeks off.  We always take that break to visit his family.  Visiting his family doesnt cost much either except airfare since they picks us up and we stay with them.  Mine is local, so that makes it easy.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

We have visited family during non-peak, non-holiday times. That way we can get good deals. They also come to us for visits. Sometimes we are able to combine family trips with business trips so that at least part of it can be reimbursed.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My family lives far away, and they are coming to visit us this year for Thanksgiving.  For the past two years, DH and I just decided to focus on ourselves and our marriage with our vacation time. I hope that doesn’t sound selfish — but we think it was a wise decision.  We went on lots of little vacations together and did all the things it might be tough to do with kids. Both of us are in our early 30s and have spent plenty of time with our parents and siblings for our entire lives, so we figured a couple of years where we just take vacations that help us grow as a couple would be best, and with the exception of a few visits we made to family, we let family know they could always come and visit us and stay at our house if they would like to. Now that we have a baby on the way, will be focusing more on visitng family and will travel to see them. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

its a hard balance – when we started out dating since we are different religions (catholic & jewish) we were able to make an “easy” split – my parents get christmas and his get passover (usually close to easter)

for a long time we would just alternate thanksgiving back and forth but now that we are married we decided to “claim” that holiday as our own and we will be hosting thanksgiving at our new home. My family will be coming but his had prior plans with a family friend and so they will not join us. Its their choice and its fine but we will just keep on planning our own thing and if they decide to come (with or without family friend) they will be welcome

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