(Closed) Family Photographs

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I would take some with some without.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I would take some of each.  I tend to actually lean towards agreeing with your mom.  In my family we would never include a girlfriend or a boyfriend in a family photo at a wedding.  Take a few with the GF’s to appease them.. and then ask the photographer to ask everyone who isn’t related to step out for a few.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would take a photo of family only and also one with significant others.  That way, nobody is offended … or the reverse, if someone breaks up, your wedding photos won’t have them included.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Unless they live together AND have been dating for about 10 years…. I wouldn’t include boyfriends/girlfriends… 

A different situation, but I was with my IL’s and next to the bed when DH’s grandfather passed away. We “knew” we would be getting married, and I sat with the family at the funeral… but I didn’t take part in any of the Catholic “family” rituals and blessings. They called me to the back of the church but I passed. When his Grandmother passed away… it was a few months before our wedding. I didn’t do anything unless asked but I was happy to take part in the “family” portions. 

To me, there’s a huge change (even mentally) between dating and even engaged. While some engagements don’t end well… the vast majority do end in marriage.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My MIL took a family picture with me in it while my DH and I were still dating (like 6 years ago) and had it hung in her living room. After our wedding, she asked me to  come into the room, opened the back of the frame, and took out a picture from the same event of only my IL family without me. She said “guess i don’t need to keep this anymore.” 

It was hysterical. I’d suggest you do the same thing. Always have a “just family” one in your back pocket!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Pupperoni:I don’t think there’s any way to know if the girlfriends will be offended. Hopefully they will not be surprised and they will understand the circumstances. If their SIL’s haven’t made a lifetime commitment with them yet, you shouldn’t feel obligated to.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have been in my fiance’s family pictures for 3 years now- when we got engaged it was like I was part of the family.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it’s a personal decision. We had my BIL’s wife in our wedding pictures, they seperated 2 weeks after the wedding. Meanwhile, I said no to having my sister’s bf in the pictures, but they’re still together and probably getting engaged soon.

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