Post # 1
I can never understand why the bride would take a picture (after the ceremony) with just her parents and siblings, and vice versa for the groom’s family. I can’t say I have ever seen this happen with my family, but I have seen pictures of it on the web (and even on Weddingbee).
My confusion stems from the fact that you are now married, and your spouse is part of the family too. Are you really going to display a family picture in your home without your spouse in it (especially if you are in a wedding dress!)?
Just saying… any opposing thoughts are welcome!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
I guess I never thought about it before but now that you mention it, it does seem a bit odd. I guess I’ll have to remember that on my wedding day!
Post # 4
I was just thinking about this last night! I was looking at lists of reccomended shots and they always have “Bride with mother, with parents, with siblings, whatever” and the same for the groom. I’m planning to have pictures of us with his family and with mine, but I think when the whole point of the marriage us union that we should be together in our pics.
Post # 5
ladies, i absolutely love your position on this. my FI is not a huge fan of posed pics anyway, but this line of reasoning will give us license to cut out a few of those “just the bride and so and so” and “just the groom and so and so” shots… i LOVE the idea of having a few family shots of BOTH of us. it only makes sense and will save time. my FI is going to love it when i tell him this.
Post # 6
I’m planning on taking pictires with just my mom or just my grandma, it’s something special that I know they want. It doesn’t mean they don’t love my FI to death, they adore him and they are also going to want those pictures as well but it’s somthing special for just them. We’ll also take a sibling only photo without the SO’s but that’s kind of a family tradition. We’ll also do one with the SO’s. We have a REALLY big family, I’m the oldest of 6 and we have 3 cousins that are always included in this mix so that probably has something to do with it. Not to mention my brothers aren’t married and their GF’s change every 2-3 years so ya never know who’s going to stick around or not (this could also be part of the reason for it)
Post # 7
I can understand not displaying them in your home, but I don’t really see a problem with having them taken. My parents’ 40th anni is coming up this fall, and I’ve been gathering old family photos of us all along the way. Having a “just us” photo from my wedding would be another snapshot of their chidlren growing up, a tribute to the family the built together.
Post # 8
As a photographer I would have a hard time NOT doing these shots. I agree with twalila. There is something to be said about the family full of memories and history that has been built long before a couple ever met. I would feel very incomplete if we didn’t honor the history that brought a family to that day.
Post # 9
The family shots are more for the individual families than the bride and groom, I think.
We have a couple of shots of my mom, dad, sister, and me together. While I probably wouldn’t put one up at my house, my folks have it at theirs, and in their album. In our album, we have shots of my family, and my husband with his family, and the whole family together.
I don’t know that they’re necessary but, for me, they’re nice to have. When my sister gets married, I think it will be nice for my parents to have pics of us together at my wedding, and together at my sister’s. 🙂
Post # 10
I’m really excited about having photos taken with just my siblings and parents. That was my original family unit; those were the people who have been by my side through EVERYTHING. Dont’ get me wrong, I’m stoked that my FI will become a member of my family (and I his, and the two of us our own little starter family ;), but my immediate family is incredibly significant to be. I’ve got three in-laws, who I’ve embraced as members of my family, but the connection I have to my siblings is something different; something stronger. I can totally understand and respect your not wanting pix without your husband in them, but my opinion on those pix are two thumbs up 🙂
Post # 11
I had pics taken with my mom and my MOH and my brothers and they are up in our home? Also my husband had one taken with his daughters and it’s up on the wall! I wish I had taken more of just me and my mom….
Post # 12
I wish I had one of just me and my sisters. and of me and my mom, and of me and my brothers, but I don’t. :'(
Stupid no one listening to the bride syndrome that happened. 🙁
Post # 13
I have a funny story about this. A good friend of mine doesn’t get along well with her MIL (through no fault of hers! She is wonderful!). For his birthday, after the wedding, her MIL gave her hubby a large, framed photo from the wedding with his whole family that did not include her. I couldn’t believe it – the BRIDE?! And it included siblings’ spouses. Later, I was telling FI this story, and he got this shocked/sad look on his face – he couldn’t believe they would take pictures without me at our wedding. Cute!
Our photographers never actually asked us for specific poses, they aren’t big on posed photos and they said they would do immediate family only unless we requested otherwise. We didn’t plan to do photos without each other, but when the photographers posed us, they posed each of us with our parents (and not with each other – bride with mom, groom with mom and dad, etc). Actually the weird thing is that they weren’t even going to do shots with both of us together with parents until one of our parents asked for it. I’m glad they did – there was just so much going on, and it didn’t even occur to me.
Post # 14
I am taking a pic with my mom, dad and brother without my FI for sure. The pics will also be displayed in my home. They have ALWAYS been in my life and we are super close. I can’t imagine not doing this.
Post # 15
these sorts of pictures are for the family not really for the B&G – kind of as a thank you to them for bringing you to this point. we will have them, but not a ton of them, because they get a bit redundant after 1-2 of em.
Post # 16
I definitely understand this perspective. We will probably have these photos simply because my mother will insist on it. I will just have to keep it to a minimum, as I can see her thinking that is going to be the focus of the entire photo session (which it clearly is not.)