Family Problems!!

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
2013 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

PrincessMelon:  This sounds like a giant mess waiting to happen. Talk to your step-dad and explain how much your relationship has helped to shape you and how much you love him. Then gently start talking about his recent divorce from your mom and the tight spot it has put you in wedding wise. Ask him if he would kindly bow out in coming to the wedding for the sake of your sanity. Mention your mothers drinking and how crazy it might get. He loves you and will hopefully understand. Perhaps there is a way to work it to where he can meet up with you quickly at some point to take photos of you and with you day of when your mother won’t be around.

As for your father, start talking about your wedding plans very excitedly and say you’ve always dreamed of your gpa walking you down the aisle and act shocked if/when he mentions himself as the one walking you down… then let him down kindly, now before the day of or week before so he can freak out and get past it before the day of your wedding. 

Good luck girl, weddings can bring out the animal in people sometimes…

Post # 3
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5207 posts
Bee Keeper

PrincessMelon:  I’m so sorry things are so sticky! Family, especially parents, should be able to step outsode of themselves an realize that someone else’s wedding is not about them.

I think it is perfectly acceptable for you to tell your Mom that you are inviting the Stepdad. Just be prepared for the possibility that she may not come. That is on her though, and not you.

I would bio-dad that you appreciate him wanting to participate, but your Grandad is giving you away, and that has been the plan all along. If you have only met him twice, this is something he will hopefully understand.

I’m not sure I understand the question about the top table? Are you planning on sitting all of these people with you? I would just sit the bridal party at the table with you and no one else. You can arrange everyone else accordingly.

Post # 4
Member
46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

PrincessMelon:  if you want your step dad to be there and walk you down the isle than have that. It is kind of messed up your mom would pull the “im not coming if he’s there” that is very childish. Especially if you feel that he has raised you. ( I understand relationship was bad but she should not put you in the middle of it) As for your dad I would talk about the wedding and if he brings up walking you down the isle say I am already having so and so do it but I’m really excited to have you there the day of. As for the tables don’t sit everyone together, you don’t have to have a head family table scatter them through the so they are not by each other. the best bet with your mom being an alcoholic is to have a dry wedding. If someone asks why you can blame it on the venue having a policy about alcohol or that you can’t afford it or that someone in you family should not be around AlcoholI’m sorry your going through this hope all works out.

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