(Closed) Family Rant, ok mostly mother rant and really long

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Not to be harsh, but I would cut her guest list!  If your parents aren’t contributing anything to the wedding, they should have a limited number of invitations they are allowed to have.  Tell your mom she has x number and she has to stick to it.  I’m sorry you are having to go through this with her.  It does sound like she’s a bit jealous and she’s the one who is a momzilla!  Big hugs to you!

Post # 4
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Combine finances, family and weddings and that can create quite of bit of tension and awkwardness and sometimes sadness. At least for me it has!

I understand that it can be frustrating when people say they will help and then they don’t. For example, I have a family member who said she would give us $500 for the wedding. To some that doesn’t seem like much, but to us, that could pay for quite a few things or we could use it to pay down the reception venue.

This family member told me this back in June. There has been nothing since. From June to November, this relative has traveled, bought another house and had major cosmetic surgery done. Granted, this person has worked very hard and deserves everything they have. I just wish they would keep their word about the $500! I wonder if they forgot about mentioning $500 to us??? And of course, I won’t bring it up because I think that would be rude.

Hang in there and try to have fun planning the wedding. One consolation, if you and your FH pay for everything yourselves, there’s absolutely no need to do what others say you should for the wedding!

Post # 5
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4774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t even give her any invites.  They arn’t helping than she’s a guest not a planner and definitely not an inviter.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally if they arent contributing, then they dnt get a say in anything money related.  I would just ignore her suggestions and her additions to the guest list, or just tell her that if she wants her friends to come she should cover the cost of those people.

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