Family related-is my grandma treating her kids and grand kids like a competition

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Weddings trump graduations and anniversary parties.

I don’t think this is about competition but more about important milestones. Everyone ranks events in their lives and this just falls into that. No need to be creating conspiracy theories about favouritism.

I would assume as an older person she needs to prioritise events because travelling can be harder and can affect health. And costly.

I also think it is rude to say that your cousin has a baby and didn’t finish high school. So freaking what? Like that means she shouldn’t get to have her grandmother at her wedding? How would you feel if someone said something so judgemental about your mother only now finishing college? Who are you to judge how hard someone else has worked in life?

This whole thing is ridiculous and extremely childish.

Being disappointed that someone cannot attend your event is one thing but turning it into a they hate me and favour other people over me rant is over the top and dramatic.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  j_jaye.
Post # 4
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7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Ap2010:  Ok your post was very hard to read. But it still doesn’t matter. She decided for her that the anniversary party was the one she was going to attend. An invite to something is just an invitation, the invitee gets to decide what she goes to and what she doesn’t.

And frankly it is none of your business what your Grandma decides to do and which event she attends. it is her choice. She doesn;t need to justify it to you and you certainly shouldn’t be stirring up drama.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

my grandma … is a competition

Don’t treat your grandma like a competition, she’s a person.

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Post # 6
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Soooo only people with a high school degree deserve to have their grandmother at their wedding. Wedding trumps graduation. Also, it sounds as if your grandma didn’t want to fly which is another very legitimate reason.

You need to stop focusing so much on this cousin. It’s unhealthy and it’s downright weird.

Post # 8
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1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you continually look for offense, you will find it. 

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