Post # 1
Dear fellow bees
so as you saw on one of my posts, my cousin didn’t invite my parents and I to her reception. Well that is not the main topic. My grandma(my moms mom) had promise my mom that she would go to her graduation. Well later she found out about my cousins reception (let’s call her jyb) she attended her reception and my mom was in town where my grandma was that weekend and my grandma told my mom that she isn’t going to my moms graduation because traveling by plane is too much for her and she dosnt want to travel to Omaha because her and my step grandpa have token a lot of trips. my grandma claims that it isn’t a competition between her kids and grand kids but I think it is. Here’s how I think that
when my aunt, let’s call her j had her anniversity party a few years ago she invited my grandma and my grandma also got invited to my cousin m’s wedding (my grandmas grandson) around the same time my aunt j invited her to her anniversity party. My grandma decided to go to my aunt j’s anniversity party. my grandma (even though she claims it’s not a competition) is a competition because my grandma goes to events where when the person who hosts it is not as well as not working as hard or someone who accomplishes so little and hasn’t worked as hard and well deserved. My cousin Jyb who had the reception not only had a baby girl but hasn’t finished high school, isn’t a hard worker, and hasn’t got to college and worked hard like my mother has. My mom got a 4.0 in school and my grandma thought my cousins reception was more important then my mom graduating with a bachelors in college.
I don’t know if I want advice or not. It’s more of a vent. I love my grandma very much, she has done a lot for my family but latly my mom feels resented by my grandma.
Post # 2
Weddings trump graduations and anniversary parties.
I don’t think this is about competition but more about important milestones. Everyone ranks events in their lives and this just falls into that. No need to be creating conspiracy theories about favouritism.
I would assume as an older person she needs to prioritise events because travelling can be harder and can affect health. And costly.
I also think it is rude to say that your cousin has a baby and didn’t finish high school. So freaking what? Like that means she shouldn’t get to have her grandmother at her wedding? How would you feel if someone said something so judgemental about your mother only now finishing college? Who are you to judge how hard someone else has worked in life?
This whole thing is ridiculous and extremely childish.
Being disappointed that someone cannot attend your event is one thing but turning it into a they hate me and favour other people over me rant is over the top and dramatic.
Post # 3
j_jaye: I see where your coming from but this grandma decided a anniversity party was more important then my cousins wedding. I feel as though she plays favorites.
Post # 4
Ap2010: Ok your post was very hard to read. But it still doesn’t matter. She decided for her that the anniversary party was the one she was going to attend. An invite to something is just an invitation, the invitee gets to decide what she goes to and what she doesn’t.
And frankly it is none of your business what your Grandma decides to do and which event she attends. it is her choice. She doesn;t need to justify it to you and you certainly shouldn’t be stirring up drama.
Post # 5
my grandma … is a competition
Don’t treat your grandma like a competition, she’s a person.
<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”><br /><br /></div>
Post # 6
Soooo only people with a high school degree deserve to have their grandmother at their wedding. Wedding trumps graduation. Also, it sounds as if your grandma didn’t want to fly which is another very legitimate reason.
You need to stop focusing so much on this cousin. It’s unhealthy and it’s downright weird.
Post # 7
MrsBeck: I’m not focus on this cousin anymore. It’s the fact that my grandma told my mom she would be there for her graduation and she worked very hard. My moms graduation is in June and my cousins reception was last weekend. She didn’t want her husband to take her because they felt as though they went on too many trips.
Post # 8
If you continually look for offense, you will find it.