(Closed) Family rings?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

How lovely that you have a meaningful piece of heritage jewelry! I think it would make a great engagement/wedding ring.

I would wait to bring it up, but the next time the topic comes up, you might suggest it and see how your boyfriend feels. He might really want to buy you a ring he helps choose, but he might also be delighted to use your family pieces and put the money he would have spent on a ring toward a nest egg/down payment on a house/etc. for you guys instead.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

YUP do exactly that!  That’s what I did – my grandmother left me her gorgeous wedding set, and I really wanted that for a) sentimental reasons and b) financial reasons (FI isn’t at the point in his career where he has much extra money yet).  My guy isn’t one to feel the need to purchase a ring to show his love and committment, so it worked out well. 

I basically was like, “Just so you know, I have these rings and it would mean a lot to me to wear them as engagement / wedding rings… they’re in my parents safe…”  (He is very close with my parents.)

Some time passed and little did I know, he went and asked my parents for their blessing and for the rings.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I’d like to use a family ring when the time came, and they’d be rings from my family – I don’t think his has any. Unfortunately (?) he told me that we wouldn’t be needing something like that so I guess it’s not an option XD I’m sure I’ll be happy with whatever 🙂 

 

Generally I think that if there is something you’d like to do you should just do it (unless you’re a psychopath lol). So if the two of you are happy using one of your family rings then you should! 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Neither my mother nor her mother had engagement rings (rather, they got engagement sewing machines!), so while I love the idea of using a family ring, it’s not an option for me.  I always get a little wistful and jealous when lucky girls like you mention heirloom jewelry in the family!  Definitely bring it up with your boyfriend, or slip in a little hint if he happens to mention getting engaged.  I think it’s lovely to have such a meaningful ring.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I love the idea of using a family ring, whichever side it comes from. I inherited my great aunt’s engagement ring – it’s a simple yellow gold trilogy ring, but I’d love to wear it. 

In fact I was trying to work out how to drop it in to conversation sometime, but I got distracted by pretty champagne sapphires, and I’m torn (and want both!!) 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

I was given a diamond when I was born from a great uncle. My mom has been using it as her wedding set for the past 27-ish years, but that is my diamond to use for my choosing. I asked her for it earlier this year when they moved. My boyfriend and I are going to put it in a setting and use that. It’s sentimental and also a great choice for us money-wise!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Definately talk to him! My grandmother’s father had given his wife a gorgeous diamond ring that has been passed down to the oldest daugher. My mom uses it now (and is keeping till i’m older and less clumsy about jewelry:) ). I couldn’t imagine getting my fiance to spend that much on an engagement ring when I knew I have a gorgeous diamond family ring that I’ll eventually be getting. He appreciated the input and we opted to get a moissanite. 

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