Family ruined our would-be wedding… Again *long*

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

This is awful 🙁 I really feel for you. Can you have a smaller, intimate wedding with people who really care about you? Sorry to say it doesn’t sound like your family really care. Could you perhaps sit them down and chat to them about what youve just said on here? Just talk in a calm manner, and if anyone gets angry, remain calm and rise above it. Maybe it’s worth considering that your life may be better off without all the conflict 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Babe, stop bending over backwards for these people! They don’t deserve it. And plan a beautiful elopement.  

Post # 4
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2500 posts
Sugar bee

You need to build alife with your FI well apart from your family and his.

Post # 5
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Get married without your families.  Both sides sound toxic.  

If you want to look after your mother, that’s up to you.  But I’d throw the sister and her husband out.  She has no right to be such a bitch to you.  She keeps up with this shitty behavior because you don’t do anything about it.  

Post # 6
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

LittleMrsSunshine:  i really don;t know what to say but i want to say i am sorry you’re going through this. you have a huge HUGE heart and it seems your family is taking advantage of it. does your family have any INTENTION of ever moving out? seems that all three of them could of gotten the apartment themselves and you stay in your own house. do you want your house back? if so, are you ready to never speak to your family again? they sound very ungrateful and selfish. i wouldnt cancel wedding 2. i’d do it anyways. its YOUR house do it! if you dont want your family there, do a destinaion wedding or just do a JP at the courthouse. the wedding shouldnt be canceled, the venue should just move. dont let them CONTINUE to dictate and control your future. get mean and tough, get legal help if you need to have them ‘removed’ get your life and sanity back!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Um, I’d elope, if I were you. 

 

And FWIW, no one I know who has eloped (and that’s actually quite a few) has ever regretted it. At all. 

Post # 8
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5032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

elope or have a small wedding with the people who do care about you.  

Post # 10
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6868 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

LittleMrsSunshine:  the great thing about eloping is everyone involved is there because they love you:-) 

screw these people, they sound dysfunctional and selfish. Go enjoy your wedding and life together without toxic people!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You need to take care of yourself now, its your turn to be happy long over due and others dont understand that then they arent part of the equation that you need to be happy… elope let your parents know they come if they want last minute…but ultimately make the day about each other becasue thats what matters at this point … hugs it will be okay just do what will make you happy … 

Post # 13
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689 posts
Busy bee

LittleMrsSunshine:  

 

1. Plan an elopement with your man and a few friends that truly care about you

2. Kick your sister out of the house (time for her to see what life is really about)

3. Have a nice talk with your mother, if she can respect you and your FI then you could let her stay in the house with you. If not time to get going

4. Stop letting people walk all over you.

 

Post # 14
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677 posts
Busy bee

LittleMrsSunshine:  never heard of a better reason to elope 🙂 you have more than enough time to plan do February, or earlier. I’m sorry your situation is so hard, but go ahead with your lives. F the haters and make that man your husband, your closest family alive. Spend whatever you would have spent on guests on something to treat yourselves and mark a fresh start!!

Post # 15
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2406 posts
Buzzing bee

elope , just go to court house what I did , my mom didnt want me to get married or have my kids . But I did best thing I ever did . My hubby mom and dad supported us and they live with us now . I am so sorry they are like that , sounds so much like my twin and mom . I pray you guys elope and find your happy ending 

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