- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Wedding info: Short ceremony at a park, luncheon at a restaurant following ceremony (with full staff running things)
So I initially had a coordinator (family friend doing it for free) when FI and I were planning our larger wedding (130+). Once our plans fell apart, I told her everything was TBD and that I would let her know if I needed her in the future. We’ve since cut our guest list in half (60-70 people) and simplified our plans, and I haven’t felt the need to ask for her help even for just the day of. Also, overall she was hard to work with, judgemental of everything I came up with, and came off as a bully on several occasions. She actually made me cry at one point because she and my mom were trying to back me into a corner and tear apart my ideas, then they had the nerve to tell me to calm down when I told them “It’s my wedding.” So I have zero desire to include her whatsoever.
Now EVERY SINGLE DAY my mom goes on and on about how I need to call her up again because I need a DOC, and how my wedding will basically be a shambles without one. She even ran into her the other day and asked her “If my daughter needs your help again would you be able to help her at the last minute?” Grrrr! My mom keeps saying everyone is going to want to ask me questions on the day of, get directions to the reception, etc, and how I need someone to field those questions so I can enjoy myself without getting overwhelmed.
I understand her concern but the thing is, I’ve already given directions and details to everyone! But just in case, my sister (MOH) already has timelines of everything and all the information the guests may need, and she says she is fine answering questions while I enjoy myself. But of course this isn’t enough for my mom. And now my dad is saying the same thing. Then 20 minutes ago my aunty called saying she agrees with my parents, and she offered to run things if I need help beyond my sister. I would consider it if I really need it, but I’m not sure I do. Is a DOC that imperative or is everyone just overreacting? Should I take up my aunt’s offer just in case?