- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I have discussed this issue long time ago but I need some opinions on it again now that the wedding is getting closer.
I have had a fight with my sister last year and gosh its been almost a year now that we haven’t talked to each other. After a month of the fight we had , I tried to solve things and asked her to move on, however, she did not want to. I also told her that I wanted her to be there at my wedding and in my wedding party , but she turned my offer down and she said that her now fiance wont be there because he moved to NC for army and that he wont be able to make it more likely and that she wont go either and that she does not want to fix things because things like that is so much better like that.
There is no history besides that we used to have our ups and downs like any other sisters except that she has her own way of thinking and I have mine and we just never were that close but close enough to hang out at times and talk about our lives and such and things went down hill after I told her that I was getting married this year instead of 2012. She became very close to this guy and dated him for a year and she has been crazy jealous (or what it seems) of setting the wedding date earlier? She got to the point where when we fight she was very aggressive and that one fight we had, she actually came on me physicaly hurting me, it was nothing big , she picked up something and hit me with it.
She has been horrible treating any one in the house and espcially my parents. She pretty much has no respect. She is engaged now and plans to get married to her fiance whos in the army to get extra money and then to plan a wedding. She did not go to college and does not plan to. She have changed A LOT from what I knew.
Anyways.. , now that my wedding is coming up in less than 3 months now, she made plans to go to visit my cousin in Cananda for a month and then my cousin turns out to be going overseas to see her parents because she hasn’t seen them. She decided to go there instead of coming to my wedding , which is fine because we were never that close and her mom has her own way of thinking, didnt like them much. My sister decided that she will go with her overseas this summer until Nov.
The problem is that it will be kind of a slap on the face for my parents because everyone there they know and we have HUGE family over there that will see that my sister is not attending. My grandma lives over there who is dying to come over for my wedding and planning to, will get hurt by knowing later on that sister is not going back with her to attend my wedding.
I dont care much anymore about my sister really , but I am more worried a bit about my parents and peoples reaction. My sister been trying so hard to even make it seem like my wedding is not important and to even other people, she tried to point out that my grandma not coming even tho I knew she wants to. She tried to point out that my grandma will come back with her in Nov , but my mom had to stop her and tell that she is coming to the wedding ,and then she stopped bragging about her crap..
I guess I just need to vent…