Family staying with you prior to your wedding challenges

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Having family stay with you (especially right before the wedding) can be stressful. You know your family though, are they easy guests? 

Post # 4
Member
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We only had a couple of relatives stay with us before the wedding.  My mom came early and stayed with us for 2 nights before moving to a hotel, then my now brother in law came and stayed through the wedding.  It really wasn’t a problem and it was so nice to have them around to help with last minute things.  I wouldn’t change a thing.  But we only had 1 guest at a time.  If we’d had more, I might have felt cramped. 

Post # 5
Member
376 posts
Helper bee

We’ll be having my FI Parents, Brother and Gramma staying with us for a day or two before the wedding and they’ll be at our house on the wedding night (we’ll be at a hotel). I’ll spend the night before the wedding at my parents’ house and there will be 4 adult relatives staying there from overseas. I might have to sleep on an air mattress in the living room the night before my wedding! lol

It’ll be cramped and busy, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m so thankful that family want to celebrate our wedding with us and are willing to travel pretty far to do so. I’ll be surrounded (literally!) by support, excitement, and love.

That being said, we’re used to having each other around. Family always stays with family when visits happen and we get along. I might feel differently if this was going to be an anomally and I wasn’t used to having them in my space.

Post # 6
Member
2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

My biggest challenge with having family everywhere was that I was a bit burned out by the time the wedding came along. I had no time to just relax. They stayed for a week after, too. I was EXHAUSTED! 

Post # 9
Member
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@JulieJBerg:  What would I do differently in terms of relatives staying during a stressful time?

I would say just not let them stay in the first place.  But I’m a jerk so don’t listen to me. 

Post # 10
Member
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My fi has already offered for his parents and brother to stay with us, which I’m ok with for the most part.  His parents have stayed with us, I’ve never met his brother.  But then he invited his cousin and his family as well.  He’s now talking about us giving up our bedroom for the time that his parents are here, which in normal circumstances I would probably be ok with but the 2 days prior to our wedding I think I’m going to really want my bed and my own room!  So we’re in “discussion” about the situation.  All of my family and close friends will be staying in a nearby hotel…

Post # 11
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I will comment based on my sister’s experience. From my observation, the biggest challenges are:

  • feeding everyone – it can get quite pricey having to feed a house full of people. And as those people are on holiday, they may tend to have larger appetites than usual.
  • privacy – even if you have your own room, someone will always want to sit and talk to you
  • some quiet time – weddings usually have quite a celebratory mood about them. sometimes people stay up until the wee hours chatting and being merry. I recommend investing in some ear plugs
  • unsolicited advice or suggestions for your wedding – if people arrive as much as 2 weeks in advance of the wedding, there will probably be at least one person who will suggest that you do a instead of b. This can get quite frustrating and I recommend putting on your cloak of patience:-).

All in all, I would recommend that if you and FI can afford it, to book a hotel room for one or two nights before the wedding. Trust me, you do not want to be getting ready on the day with a house full of loud and merry-making relatives.

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