- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
It’s been 3, almost 4, weeks since the fiasco happened regarding FH’s brothers wedding. I thought it was time to update all those who were interested or have a continued interest in the situation.
Last contact I received was from FMIL saying she would contact me again when she ‘figured out whether or not i was lying’ about the school situation. No contact between me or them has happened since this point in time.
They have not apologized and have made no contact with me other than recently to send awkward texts asking how specific things in my life are going… aka, school things they yelled at me about over the phone a month ago. I have only responded to a few of these messages but have stopped since there has been no effort made to reconcille with me or to even show concern over the fact their son and I am extremely hurt over their actions towards us.
FH asked weeks ago that she leave me alone and give me space since I was very hurt. He has been ignoring contact from them as well since last month. We have both made it clear we are not ok with their actions or continued treatment towards us both. We are maintaining communication with his siblings but not his mother or his father, as his brothers and sisters never wronged us in any way and are not privy to the argument in the first place.
The last we heard they want to ‘come down because they don’t understand’. Not to apologize. Not to even realize they were wrong in this situation. FH thought it may be a good opportunity to sit down with them but they have made no move to make further plans. As my fiance and i have thought this through, we have come to the conclusion that it really isn’t going to do any good for them to come either way. If they have not shown interest in the fact we are hurt or have apologized in any small way in the past month… we both highly doubt this is their intention. Rather, them driving all the way out reminds me very much of the time in the past they did this before… as a last attempt to get their son back or to try to prove they have good intentions while not being sorry in the least for the past month of drama caused by them.
IF they come at all, I have decided it will be under my own roof. I will have my mom there or someone I know and trust who has also received crap from these people in regards to last month.
And so I am wondering…. since there is nothing to be said to them that hasn’t already been said, if FH and I should write them a letter explaining we do not want them to waste their time by coming to visit us. We have nothing further to say to them, have not received any sort of apology for their behavior and as this is unacceptable, we are moving on with our lives accordingly.
I am not sure if these people will ever come but feel a letter from the two of us may be a good thing. With our wedding in two months … I am ready to have this finally over. I want to let them know I am hurt, I forgive them and I am moving on without them. I feel like any apology at this point will not be heartfelt and is too little too late.
I think a letter may be the way to go since their last visit was forced upon us and I certainly don’t want to re-live that experience.