- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
My mom has been so frustrating to me in almost all level lately. First of all, she approached this wedding like it’s no big deal. I asked her for a list of guests (especially oversea relatives) of their addresses, she only gave me a few. Then always mentioning that they won’t make it, don’t send it to them. Well, I WANT TO even if they don’t make it, so they know I’m thinking of them.
I went back and kept asking her for more family guests because sadly my side of the family only had less than one table. Fortunately and pleasantly surprisingly, most of them were able to make it. One of my cousin causually mentioned to my brother that her mom never got an invite, my brother told me they weren’t mad or it wasn’t a big deal. My aunt thought she’d get something but was a little surprised she didn’t get anything. With all the things going on, I was too busy and forgot to send her an invite (my mom didn’t include her in the list). I did however asked my cousin over chat and she told me her mom couldn’t make it. I went back to my mom and asked her why she didn’t include my aunt, her own sister’s name to a list of contact. I just think this is so messed up, I feel like I’ve to do everything on my own and she couldn’t even at least help me with a list of contacts from her side of the family. Now I feel extremely awkward with my aunt, thanks to my mom. I just couldn’t stand her whole attitude towards our oversea guests with – “Oh it’s too far they can’t make it anyway, why bother sending an invitation”.
Second incident – I realized she never gave my brother’s invitation to him. I think he’s very confused with the wedding location and time but I’ll go back and told him the details. He also offered to take the day off before the wedding to pick up our relatives from the airport, which I couldn’t thank more! When I asked my mom to give the invitation to him but instead, she wrote down his choice of meal and gave the rsvp back to me. The idea for our guest is to get the invitation from us and have them reply back themselves, I wanted my brother to have the invitation and keep it. When she gave me the baby pictures for our slide show project, I realized she gave both of the invitations for my brother and my parents back to me. The invitation has the wedding address and time, so now I know why my family is BEYOND confused with the wedding DATE AND TIME, because my mom didn’t even bother reading the invitation, or give a copy to my brother.
Then my dad thought the wedding was on Friday, then realized it’s on Saturday. Then he asked me why he needs to be at the rehearsal because he didn’t realized he’s part of the wedding party – he needs to walk me down at the ceremony. Both of my parents are not familiar with western style wedding, and I’ve been very patient explaining to them steps, and things they need to do. At the end, they did not listen and just kept continuing to be confused. I’m so mad right now, with all the other things I’ve to take care of with the wedding approaching. The last thing I want are my confused parents not being at the wedding on time.