- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Across the weekend, SO and I went to my grandparent’s house as it was their 60th wedding anniversary.
Quick background: My family is pretty big, there were well over 20 of us there for this weekend (which isn’t nearly all of us), my grandparents and some of my family are religious. My whole family is really close, kind of like we’re all brothers + sisters. I’m the second youngest grandchild out of 15 of us.
So there we were, my SO and I, and 20 + other members of my family, in my grandparents house for 2 days (which is actually a lot of fun because we’re all so close). And all of my cousins and aunts and uncles and grandparents and everyone decided that it’s time for my SO and I to get married. My SO and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, and my whole family loves him and he loves them (he basically has no family, partly because we live in a different country, and partly because he’s just not close with them at all). My godparents officially consider themselves to have a godson. One of my female cousins and my sister in law started planning my wedding, choosing colors, asking my SO which season he wanted the wedding in etc. My grandmother told my SO that he better put a diamond on my finger and tried to offer SO the ring my grandpa got her for their 50th wedding anniversary to give to me (but she does have 11 grand daughters, so this really wouldn’t be fair, and it’s a beautiful ring that she should keep), and she also suggested that we have the wedding in her backyard (never going to happen… we live 6h away from her).
All in all, fairly embarrassing (as this was the first time we’ve got much family pressure to get married), but it was meant in good fun and they weren’t harsh about it at all. Plus I think they really got him thinking about it, and I don’t think he’ll want to deal with this for another 2 years.. so I think engagement may happen sooner. Also, I’ve heard many of you ladies talking about how everyone asks you when you’ll get married/engaged, but never asks your man, and for me it was an entirely different experience. My whole family was pressuring him at least as much, or MORE than me. :). Asking HIM when he was going to propose, when HE wanted to have the wedding etc etc. of course I did get it too… but I think a bit of pressure on him, not coming from me is a very good thing.
Have you gals had any similar experiences? Any stories? Thoughts? Advice?
Oh and just for a laugh… after SO and I had been dating 1 or 2 years, his mother told me to ask for pink diamonds. TOTALLY not my taste, plus I would have been 18! Now I’m 21, he’s 29, and I think we’re both more ready to get married.