Weddingbee boards

A few of my friends either have done this or are going to do this.  I wasn't upset by it.  Sometimes people want to get married either quickly or without it being a big production and that's a good way to do it.  You'd probably only risk hurt feelings if you invite some of your close friends, but not all.  If there's a clear "family only" cut off point it's hard for people to take it personally. 

I agree with bluegreanjean.  Maybe you can hold a seperate, less formal celebration later on for the rest of your friends.  I think people, in general, understand if it was a family-only event.

I'm going to tell you a little story about how pissed off I am at my cousin right now. He got engaged a week after I did. I set my date before he did. He is planning a destination wedding in Puerto Rico; I am marrying on the Gulf Coast of Florida. He purposely set his date for the weekend after my wedding, knowing that people would not be able to go to both. He wanted a very small wedding and didn't want the entire family there, and he thought it would be easier to be passive-aggressive instead of setting the date further out and only inviting immediate family. I realize that you only get one day, not a week or a month, but because of what he did he and his two brothers can't make it to my wedding due to a lack of vacation days. I have never met his brother's wife or their two children, and was so looking forward to it. Now I can't, because my cousin doesn't have the balls to say he only wants a handful of people at his own wedding. Quite frankly, after I send him a wedding gift and well-wishes, I doubt I will speak with him again. I have no room for such selfishness in my life. Even his own mother is disgusted with him because of this.