Post # 1
a little backstory first…. My sister has only been dating this current BF maybe a year. They are constantly on and off again. At easter she moved out to live with an ex BF. stayed there a week and then moved back in with current BF…. all while telling EVERYONE how much she hated him, couldnt stand him, hated his family etc. I mean she is DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA ALL the time.
last week she told everyone shes getting married because their happy and want to make it a family (shes has a 10month of from a diff guy, NOT current bf or ex bf but from and Ex ex BF…. yeah i know… where is maury) *insert eyeroll* lmao.
She had originally asked 6 girls to be bridesmaids for her… she told me today that 3 dropped out. So i asked her what shes gonna do and she said….”Well i guess if you want to be a bridesmaid you can, but you have to order your dress by this friday” (in 2 days) and sent me the link. umm the dress is $140. and i hate it.
I feel like i should because shes my sister but honestly feel like she only asked me cause she wanted to fill in a missing spot. I dont have that kind of money to spend on a bridesmaid dress i hate and will NEVER wear again when im 30 days out from my own wedding…………
Post # 3
Though I hear what you’re saying about doing it because she’s your sister, it doesn’t sound like that statement necessarily has the same meaning as it would in another context. If your sister were to say to do, will you be in my bridal party? It would be meaningful to have you there. OR, even ASKING you at all, as opposed to saying you can if you want if you order an expensive dress you don’t like in a short period of time. Though, it was more that she threw the idea out there as a possible, “if you want to” sort of thing, which I think takes away sisterly obligation.
It sounds like this is a situation where it’s okay to say no. And at the rate she’s going, it sounds like the dress may end up being a waste anyway. (As would the amount of money spent on it).
Post # 4
my sister is like the biggest master manipulator ever. She is a compulsive liar, stolen things from me out of my house…. So weve had some huge arguments but have always stayed in contact. I just dont trust her. She lives 4 miles from my house and i never see her or my neice. Shes just super sneaky in everything she does. She always makes herself a victim. She never even told me she was getting married it came out in an argument one time when i told her she needed to stop jerking her bf around and either step up and make it work or leave him for good. She just blurted out…. Well you dont know anything because were in love and we are getting married. umm ok…. since last week you were talking crap about him…lol Most of my family will not be attending. she hasnt even told me when or where it is; just that i need to order a dress by friday.
Post # 5
I’m an only child so I don’t get the whole “sibling thing” but I would not agree to be a bridesmaid. You’re right, she’s just looking to fill a spot. Two days notice to purchase a dress is ridiculous. If she was serious about wanting you to be a bridesmaid then she shouldn’t have a problem with paying for the dress herself and letting you pay her for it when you have the money (whether that be next week or in a few months from now).
She didn’t tell you where or when the wedding is? Um… I would want to get some kind of proof that this shindig is actually happening. She sounds crazy.
Post # 6
yea i dont have much faith that they will make it down the aisle.
it would be nice for her to pay and i pay her back… but she has no job!
Post # 8
Let’s see –
– you don’t trust her
– sounds like you don’t like her
– date of wedding unknown
– buy expensive dress you don’t like within two days
WHY would you allow yourself to even think about actually doing this? Maybe if she comes up with a date and some plans that indicate a wedding is really scheduled you might consider it, tho I don’t know why. But for now I question there will really be a wedding.
If she wants you tell he she will need to buy the dress as you’re broke. Then you’re only out your time.
Post # 9
If she has no job and can’t afford the cost of your dress then how is she affording the cost of a wedding?