- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
I am getting married on the beach near my and my FI’s home. We have both always said that we want a big party on the beach for our wedding. My folks live about an hour away in a great golfing community. My family and I are originally from NY so a lot of our guests will be traveling from out of town.
My FI and I have made arrangements for a block of rooms at a wonderful hotel with a lot of amenities. We figured our out of town guests would want to make a weekend vaca out of our wedding and we wanted to make sure they felt like part of all the activities of the entire weekend. We planned the rehearsal dinner for 2 nights before and a meet & greet for all guests the night before at the hotel. My mother had suggested a morning after brunch, so the weekend would chock full of fun options and get togethers for all of our guests.
The problem is this: My parents have decided to “put up” as many out of town guests as possible at their house and their neighbors whose homes will be vacant (their neighborhood has a lot of part time residents). They will rent a bus for all the guests to come to the wedding (almost 50) and return that evening. Sounds lovely. But….
Now we will most likely not meet our minimum for the room block. There is no need for a meet & greet the night before since many out of towners will be staying 1 hour away. My mother will not be with me getting ready since she will be riding the bus. My father will arrive minutes before I walk down the aisle because he will be riding the bus. The morning after brunch will not include my FI and I since it will be 1 hour away.
Their thought in this process is that it will save our guests money since our hotel is $169/night.
Am I right to feel slighted here? I feel like my parents are taking away from my weekend!