Family/friends… unexcited

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Is there a lot of divorce in your family? I just had one of my aunts tell me yesterday after receiving my save the date, the she wishes she could talk me out of getting married. Mostly everyone on my mom’s side has been divorced and married several times. So for them, saying I’m getting married doesn’t carry much meaning for them. But my FI’s side is very excited about it, especially because I’m pretty close with his family also. I couldn’t see them thinking that my FI could end up with anyone else but me (I’m his first everything by the way). But at least my mom is excited.

Post # 4
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825 posts
Busy bee

I’m in the same boat. Everyone loves my FI and his side loves me. But on my side, there is a lot of divorce and I’m currently unemployed (I have lots and lots of savings to draw on, but it makes my Mom nervous to contribute to a wedding when I’m currently unemployed.) She’s also divorced and jaded on the whole subject of marriage even though FI and I are both financially independent, live on our own, etc. On his side, his dad’s brother died less than a week after we got engaged and then they sold their house.

At least, that’s what I tell myself, to not get too down in the dumps about it.

Post # 5
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3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

Do your family and friends dislike your fiance? If you are getting a very cool reaction from ALL of them, then maybe they are seeing something you aren’t. I don’t mean to rain on your parade, as I certainly don’t know your or your family; my theory might be totally off-base. It just seems that if they liked him and thought he was a great person they would be excited by your news. Especially if his family is happy (did they not think he could end up with someone as great as you are?), and your family is not, it just makes me think that somehow your family might not think he is the best person for you.

Post # 6
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@splodge:  I think a lot of it is distance to the wedding date. I have noticed my friends were happy but not overjoyus but as it creeps closer more people seem more excited. Your friend was really mean but maybe it is jealousy? As for your mom she may need time to fully get what a big deal it is and once you start asking her to dress shop and things she will get more excited. My family doesn’t outwardly show emotion that much but as they book hotel rooms and things I can see the level of excitment rising and I am sure some people wont be excited until March 7th haha 

Post # 7
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@echomomm:  Her last note, she said everyone loves him, so that’s not it. xP

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

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