Family's opinion of your FI/SO?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My parents think of my OH as the son they never have. They love him to bits!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My parents love my DH. I’ve always said that if they didn’t like him then the time to say it would be before we ever got too serious! They agreed with that and nothing was ever said!

Post # 4
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Worker bee

My Mum absolutely adores my SO. She introduces him as her son-in-law and proudly proclaims he is her favourite child lol. She always wanted a son but had two (difficult) daughters. They have a great relationship; he’ll stay with her when he visits our hometown; they go out for dinner or have drinks; and he’s always helping her out with something. It’s lovely to see.

I remember one time where my younger sister had been a bitch to Mum and then Mum I had an argument and she said “Well you’re definitely not my favourite child” to which I replied “Oh what, now V’s you’re favourite even with her attitude this morning” and Mum said “No, SO’s my favourite child and he’s perfect” which ended up with Mum laughing and SO sitting there grinning while I glared at him haha.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow that’s great for the bees who have that closeness!

My family likes my FI but they don’t love him lol. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My mom loves my FI, she came to visit and take care of me, after my heart surgery. She stayed for like 2 months, and got to know him. She loves how he cared for me, all the little things he does for me. She could see how happy i am and why. He always hugs and kisses me and one time he said to my mom: well, you deserve a hug too, just for being my mom. In that time my grandma died and he was so understanding and was there for me and my mom. Since then, he’s my moms favorite…

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

My family loves my FI more than they love me, but his family is just “eh” about me. 

His mom makes it pretty clear that she would have rather had him marry a woman who is going to pop out a ton of grandbabies, be a SAHM, cook homemade meals for him each night, and clean the house from top to bottom during the day.

Instead they’re getting a lawyer who works more than my FI and wants a maximum of one kid (maaaaybe 2, but only if they’re twins).

C’est la vie.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My family didn’t like my fiance at first, mainly because they thought I should not be dating and instead focus on my kids. They have changed their minds, because without him, I would not be able to be in nursing school following my dreams. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

We’re an older couple so,  unfortunately my parents are deceased.  My kids love my FI. My sister hasn’t met him yet,  but she won’t like him… My dear late husband was a close friend of hers whom she loved.. Till I married him… Lol

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Well my family likes FI, but I don’t think the “love” thing is there yet for most of my family, though my mother sometimes tries to force it.  FI and I met after I moved away for college, and we live several hours away from most of my family so they never got to spend too much time together.  My grandparents have had more time with him than anyone else in my family  (accept my sister N, who actually used to hate him, but now seems to have accepted the fact that he isn’t going anywhere, but we’ll get back to that later), and my grandparents LOVE him.  My mom has only met him a handful of times, but insists on creating this awesome mother-son-in-law bond, that seems a little forced to me, but its well intentioned, and one day I presume it won’t be so forced.  My dad doesn’t understand why I want to get married at all.  His thoughts have nothing to do with FI personally, instead its more of no one is good enough for my little girl type thing.  My sister M has no problem with him, but remarked earlier this month that “she feels like I’m marrying a stranger”, because she’s never had the chance to spend time with him (lets forget that I’ve known FI for 6 years though, right!). And back to my sister N, well she told me about a year and a half ago, that she wouldn’t stop to help him if he were dying.  Not sure if she still feels that way, but she stopped telling me shit like this shortly before we got engaged, and seems to be happy for me now.  I’m confident that she’d be cordial with him in person, but due to the bad blood there, I’ve avoided spending time with both of them together for nearly the past 2 years. (and no, he never did anything to her.  She just disliked him over some rough patches that FI and I experienced dating early on, when we were in college.).

  • This reply was modified 2 years ago by  chaibella.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My dad and step mom loves him independent of me. Full sister H and brother love him. Half and step siblings love him.  Dad’s mom likes him well enough, but he’s not very traditional so she isn’t that fond of him either. Aunts and uncles like him.  

My mother and her creep hate him.  Granted, she dislikes me at best and creep hates me, so not far to travel.  Two half sisters like him, but they’re disliked by the duo also.  Full sister C hates him. Half brother hates him.  Maternal grandparents love him.

His family likes me, haven’t spent much time with all of them. Parents and grandparents figure if I make him happy, that’s enough. Siblings know me more.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

My parents LOVE him. On the surface, I think they’re just grateful I found someone because I’ve always been more of a single career girl. However, he is an incredibly upstanding guy, and I think they really like that (like I do!). Plus, they don’t have any sons, so they are excited to be getting a son-in-law.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

my family loves DH. I honestly don’t think I could marry someone if I knew they didn’t. My parents’ opinions are very important to me. And if they don’t like someone it’s for a good reason.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

My family loved him at first, but we hit a rough patch after our daughter was born (lack of sleep makes us both cranky) and I don’t think they’ve 100% forgiven him yet. They like him well enough and they’re happy that I’m happy and he’s being a good father, but I can tell they’re still a bit wary.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

My family likes FI cause he’s pretty stable and smart, but of course I complain about him sometimes so they forgive him less easily than I do… My mom thinks he’s ok, but might be too “cold” of a man. I think she translates his shyness around people as indifference. Of course she wants the man I will marry to care about me and truly love me. He’s not very “showy” in general so maybe that’s why she has doubts but wtv I know his feelings for me and I love him above all. but yeah, she will never tire of telling everyone how her daughter is engaged to a MIT future graduate ahah… I think that when he left to study, it convinced my mom he was a keeper!! 😛 Although I can tell she’s stressed that I would go and join him over there…

My bro loves FI, they are both math fanatics. I actually think FI gave his math passion to my bro, who ended up studying math! (Note that FI has been around since my bro was 11 yrs old…) My sis used to find him attractive when we started dating, I could tell she was jealous lool. but they have a cordial relationship in general, and I know she doesn’t find him good looking anymore ahah. Her tastes have changed! 

So in general I would say it’s pretty positive : ) During Xmas parties FI gets bombarded with questions about his studies, my uncle is in the same field so they are always having those deep conversations aha.

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