Post # 1
I am JUST learning about FAM/NFP by reading TCOYF (not done yet) but I am already feeling so lost. Not married/sexually active yet but wanting to learn as much as I can now.
Did you figure it out all on your own, without having to take a class with an instructor?
Because I am really struggling, to even CHART!
I started taking/recording my temperature every morning recently but I realized that I was doing it all wrong, since I am using a regular digital thermometer. (I had been getting 36.5 C every day… time to get a real thermometer!)
Also I have NFI how to check my cervical fluid, let alone cervical position. I have never used a tampon before so you can imagine how difficult and confusing this is for me. It’s easy enough to check it when it ends up on your underwear, but actually going in to check is totally beyond me. On top of that, I have been having very irregular periods.
My question is … what are your tips for beginners? Are there any good reliable phone apps for FAM/NFP? Special techniques you use? etc.
Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
First, your not doing it all wring 🙂 you just need the right thermometer 🙂 get a basal body temperature (BBT) thermometer. You can get them online or at most drug stores.
Set up an account with http://www.fertilityfriend.com or http://www.tcoyf.com. They have programs that will do the chart and predicting for you. All you do is take your temperature every day at the same time (a few minutes difference is fine, but no more than 30 minutes).
Fertility Friend (FF) even has videos online to give you the basics. There are three videos and take about 25 minutes to watch total.
Take your temperature every day at the same time and put in the data to your chart. They even have apps for your phone or ipad. The site makes the chart for you. It will also give you predicted dates for ovulation and your period.
Checking cervical mucus – this will be a bit TMI/graphic but there’s no way around it 🙂 insert a finger into your vagina. WheN you remove it, look at it and the mucus that is there. This website has a good slide show showing the different kind and pictures so you know what to look for
hope this helps!
Post # 4
@Glasgowbound: Thank you SO much for the resources. I really appreciate it 🙂 Looking into it all right now!
Post # 5
@kmaemu: I don’t use NFP, but I do use a free phone app that I really like called Ovuview. There are tons of symptoms you can chart and they’ll try to calculate where you are in your cycle based on whatever info you put in. Good luck!
Post # 6
Is anyone using the Marquette Model? I just ordered the Clearblue Fertility Monitor, but have to wait till my next cycle to start programming it. I was really excited to find out about this method because I don’t wake up at the same time everday which made taking my temperature tricky and only relying on the mucus made me worry if it would be too subjective. I hear it takes six months for the monitor to really learn your cycle, but we’re not getting married till December so I hope we’ll be good by then! I also have been meaning to read Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
Post # 7
Best single piece of advice I can give for your first month or two: hang in there and be patient. When you only have a few data points, it looks like your temperature is zig-zagging all over the place and you can’t really see any pattern. Once you get a complete month and start working on your second one, it gets a little easier, and as time goes by you start to be able to spot your thermal shift more easily.
Another tip, if you are in a position to do so with your partner: get him involved in helping record the temps. My Darling Husband was quite skeptical about the whole thing at first, but we worked out a system where he keeps the chart on his side of the bed, hands me the thermometer when the alarm goes off, and then he notes down the temp. (He’s much better than I am at getting up consistently at the same time every morning!) 6 months down the road, he has gotten very adept at scanning the data and noticing, “hey, tonight is a good time to try,” or “your period is about to hit,” etc. That may sound weird, I know, but I think it’s really great that he’s so comfortable with my biology now, and it’s “our” thing rather than just “my” thing. I love how supportive he is and how it’s drawn us closer.
Post # 8
@KCKnd2: Wow! Thanks for posting that. I’m really starting to feel a lot less overwhelmed now. And I love the system you and your Darling Husband have going!
@MsCarabiner: I will check that out!
@vanessa7: I hadn’t even heard of that model! Hmm. I’d say that I’d check it out, but I think I will confuse myself if I try too many things, lol.