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Has this ever happened to me? Not that I can think of
Do I think Jessica was stealing Nick's thunder on purpose? oh yes, yes i do
I agree with you Ktisthatbees! I think she was feeling a little bit of the celebu-blues and had to do something about hearing Nick got engaged.
i heard about jessica but didnt know about nick - apparently jessica is "setting the trend" for non diamond rings *roll eyes*
I completely agree it seems she is trying to steal their thunder or make herself feel better. I also heard that her fiance is a bit broke now that he's out of the NFL and she paid for her own ring. That doesn't help the whole "I didn't know" business she's trying to pull.
If anyone should be pissed, it should be Jessica b/c Kate Middleton and Prince William TOTALLY stole her thunder by announcing their engagement!
Could it be Karma kicking Jessica's butt for not letting Nick and Vanessa have their moment? I'd like to think so ......
@BanditGirl: Hahaha, that was funny. I didn't even realize they were the same day. Karma indeed.
@BanditGirl: I am seriously gigglin' about that! I think ANY wedding announcement might be a teensy bit upstaged by the wedding of Kate and William! I personally can't wait to see it myself. As a child, my sister and I threw a party (we were really small) when Diana married the prince...on a family vacation. We were in FL with our family when the royal wedding came on tv. We made our grandparents take us to the grocery store, where we bought danish wedding cookies (Pepperidge Farms), a bakery cake, some paper streamers, and some Hawaiian punch. I think it was in 1981. Now I can't wait to see her son's wedding.
Karma bus---1
Jessica---0
Now as for the ring, I personally think if you wanna buy your own e ring and get your FI his ring that's fine. Or do whatever you want. I just wouldn't do it the second (if it were me) I found out an ex was getting married so I could flash some left hand bling. It's not a contest to see who has moved on first you know...
When I heard about it I didnt think she was stealing their thunder, I thought she was just tryin to prove that she is over Nick and that she is moving on too. Either way it wasnt really a good reason to announce her sudden engagement
The only possibly questionable reason regarding her timing is the short amount of time she dated that guy vs. how long her ex has dated his FI.
I mean, I'm all for falling in love, but I only know of maybe two people who have met, dated, and gotten engaged in less than 6 months. Not sayin' it hasn't nor can't be done, just not usually the way it goes that's all.
I remember, my ex did something not quite like that, but our divorce was final, and I had a big party and sent out invitations (it was called "J's Big Re-Bachelorette Extravaganza" and it was fun)...went to a fancy dinner out, then out to several clubs where I wore a different kind of banner (it said "single ready 2 mingle") and a tiara and then we went out dancing and it was a blast. Apparently the ex found out about it and had his own (he remarried actually the first day after new year after our divorce was final..yea he cheated) so-called "wedding reception" the week after and sent out invitations too. And it (from the pics I saw) looked like a reception which took less than a week to plan. (Baaad Belle! I should slap my hand for that but I'm not! 
)
But I have to say..the "re-bachelorette" party was a blast! Even had table decor at our dinner table (at Chops in ATL).
So yea, I was kinda the victim of encore thunder stealing (in that case my ex was the encore groom who did the thunder stealin'), but found it hilarious.
Anybody have a real life ex who attempted to snatch away your moment in the sun? Any encore brides , brides, or brides to bee (or brides with encore grooms) have an ex pull a "jessica" on your big moment or day?
I bet we might get some funny stories on this thread!
Nothing is ever as it seems with celebrities. If she came off as an attention whore, the blame should be on her manager not her.
Any brides have their own story about an ex and thunder stealing?
@Belle2be: Maybe so, but she runs her own company so I'd doubt it. I think she knows what's up.
Her Dad is her manager right? I think she's a big idiot, she had to pay for her own ring andd then pretended that she didn't know he was going to propose. Her fiance is just as dumb, he his riding her coattails trying to be famous. It's lame. She said to People or US Weekly that they are getting married in January/February.
I'd like to chime in that I paid for my own ring and didn't know exactly when FH was going to propose. However, saying she didn't know AT ALL doesn't fly.
On Jessica: I think it does come down to her dad being an idiot and a crap manager, though.
Totally agree that Jess' engagment announcement was a little on the "wtf?" side.
My ex and I were never married, but he definitely got a case of the one-ups after I found FI. We kept in touch as friends ever since the break-up, and when I told him I had a new boyfriend, he spurted out -- "Oh that's great, actually I've started dating someone too!" which turned out to actually translate into, "I started talking to my ex gf, that I used to make fun of because of how weird she is, on facebook, but still haven't actually seen her in years."
After things got more serious with FI as we had a long-distance relationship, ex was quick to tell me that he was "official" with the weird ex gf, that he still hadn't met with in person again.
After I moved to be with FI, the ex gf left college and moved back home, now about an hour and a half away from my ex.
After I told ex that FI and I were talking about marriage (only because ex asked), two weeks later ex tells me he bought a ring.
He proposed to her after "dating" for less than six months, and they were married about five months later.
I shortly after get an email from him starting with the words, "Been thinking about you lately..." (uhh... yeah.) and that he hoped to chat with me soon. I casually responded back asking how married life was treating him, to which he replied that it was "challenging," communicating with her was "quite hard" and that he "wouldn't be doing very well" if it weren't for his friends over there. Wow. Oh, and that he missed me. Uh-huh. By the way, HE was the one that broke up with ME.
Well now I'm engaged and he managed to cough up a semi-genuine sounding congratulations, though it still screamed of jealousy and remorse to me. Meh. At least he's already married and can't thunder-steal this time around! :)
Wow LMM, sorry you went thru that! But sounds like the ex is a bit sorrier than you could imagine! Did this fiasco per chance happen on FB for the world to see?
I have to admit. I'm never one to be "out done" and when my ex had his "reception" a week after my re-bachelorette party, I sent out new year e card to everybody, with a pic of me surrounded by two of my girlfriends and two hot guy-friends of mine, with me in a dark blue evening gown in the center. The pic actually appeared in a local magazine here under "social events" and it was a photo of all of us out at a glitzy NYE party a few days before the re-bachelorette event.
My NY e-card I sent out (and yes, did happen to cross-email to some I knew had attended the quickie wedding reception of the cheatin' groom) had "Wishing You a Happy New Year!~" under it. It did show me moving on, lookin' nice, and appearing anything but lonely. My ex "jessica'd me" first, but then I "re-jessica'd" him right back and all our former joint friends with the e-card after his reception.
That ended that right there!
But then again, it was 2004 and FB wasn't what it is today or I'm sure we'd have had a FB fiasco fo shizzle!
My parents both got engaged within a few days of each other. I have no idea if there was any "jessica-ing" going on. In fact, I never thought it was weird until I read this thread... just that love was in the air??
My dad had a short engagement and my mom had a long one, so their weddings were over a year apart from each other.
I don't know if it was just timing that they both got engaged or if there was some legal milestone that passed?
Geez. Maybe I tried deliberately to forget about this but here goes...Well my mom last year definitely tried to "jessica" me. I announced my engagement on Dec. 6 (day after) and she announced hers the next day I called her with my good news. It was like "Oh wow, that's so exciting J, but I have to tell you, my bf gave me an e ring too, but I'm not sure if I should wear it or not. I guess I'm engaged too!"
I forgot about that one. Fwiw, my mom is not actively involved in my life or in my sis' life either really, and it was just yet another "whatever" we've had to deal with over the years.
MsHangry: I don't know if they did. But that is wild if it genuinely happened all within 2 weeks of each other. Maybe it was just love! I hope it was just a case of love in the air!
I love threads like this because I wouldn't have ever known about these engagements otherwise (I don't watch TV and have been out of country for 3yrs now). I totally Googled Jessica's and Nick's engagement news and it does seem a little rushed, but maybe it's just a coincidence afterall. Fabricating all of that is ... well ... sad, really, really sad. Maybe it is just love in the air!
@bellenga: Yeah! He does seem to regret jumping into marriage with the girl and/or letting me go, especially since everyone and their mother has been cheering FI and I on from the beginning whereas with this girl it was kinda like, "Oh... you're with her again?" The whole thing did kind of play out over facebook since you could see that he ran out to find someone immediately after I did, etc., but thankfully no most of the correspondance was private.
I lllloooove that you "Jessica'd" him back and that your fabulous night out was showcased publicly like that! You glamourous socialite, you! :) The story about your mother though -- oy!! "I guess I'm engaged too" ... way to downplay your daughter's happiness! Some people, eh?
Never has happened to me. When it comes to celebrities, I am pretty much clueless because I just don't care. I couldn't tell you the names of the actors on my favorite TV shows (hardly watch TV anyway) or the musicans in my favorite groups. Just interested in the finished product I guess and I have a hard enough time keeping track of the people in my life!
I haven't had to deal with an ex stealing my thunder...that is reserved for a former bff. She was actually moved to "ex-bff" status after the latest event.
Basically, there are 3 of us in our little click. Over the past couple of years, two of us have noticed that every single time we have "big news", no matter whether it's good or bad, she always has to have something bigger.T he final straw for me was when I got engaged. Me and my FI have been living together for almost 3 years. We have had a TON of discussions about marriage...I wanted to get married, he didn't. I understood how he felt. He has been married twice already and was in a serious relationship between the two marriages. Each time, something would happen and the relationship would end. He had LOTS of emotional baggage...so yeah, when he proposed it was a VERY big deal! I called my kids and texted my sister and bff's to let everyone know. Since everyone was texting back wanting details, I told them I would send out an email the next day. The next day I sent my email and sat back to wait for all the congrats to roll in. Hers came but it was very short and not her usual exuberant self. Ten minutes later, I found out why. Me and the other bff both got the email saying how she was sorry she wasn't herself lately but the love of her life was in a serious accident and had been in the hospital for the past weeks. Since he is still legally married she hadn't been able to see him at all (his wife works at the hospital and would freak if she went to visit him), and could only talk to him via text, and he was in serious condition and might have to have a transplant and blah blah blah. <eyeroll>
Let me say that I know that things happen...someone gives birth and the next day someone really close loses a family member...it's life, it happens. HOWEVER, with her it happens all the time! This was the final straw for me. Petty? Maybe. But if he was in an accident and had been in the hospital for two weeks AND we are her bff's, why are we not hearing about this until now? Why did we not hear anything at all until I have such amazing news to share? So yeah...done. No room in my life for people who cannot stand to let anyone else have "their moment in the sun".
So for me...that is my "thunder-stealing" moment. :-(
Wow Helenc32, that friend sounds toxic, and since she is involved in an extra marital affair and you're about to get married, I'd say she isn't maybe the kind of friend to be around imho. Ditto on dumping the friend. In fact, I was an encore bride and got a divorce due to my x cheating. Being friends w/somebody who doesn't respect marriage doesn't equal a good friendship esp if you're a bride to be.
and he was in serious condition and might have to have a transplant and blah blah blah. <eyeroll>
im sorry to say it (because i dont know your friend) but thats cold...
edit: Bellenga she said along the lines that he was still legally married - i took it as they were seperated and there are alot of people in that position
@eloping:No...not cold. I just simply don't believe it. Like bellenga did say...she IS toxic. It has taken me a while to realize that but after looking back over the emails I have shared with her, I am pretty sure that either a) he is not even in the hospital or b) he is not in nearly as serious condition as she led us to believe. And yes, it is an extra-marital affair. I think that is another reason I probably have a huge problem with it. My marriage of 25 years ended because of his cheating. I know what it's like to be in the "little woman at home". My friendship with her is definitely over. It's not just the whole "stealing my thunder" thing...there are soooo many other reasons that I can't even go into without hi-jacking this thread. I guess for me, as crazy as it sounds, the stealing the thunder was the last straw.
@bellenga:Being friends w/somebody who doesn't respect marriage doesn't equal a good friendship esp if you're a bride to be. I am learning more and more just how strongly I feel about this. Thanks for your response. :-)
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Ok, I have a question for encores here and want to hear your thoughts. I am a newly married encore bride, and also have gone thru my ex getting remarried (thought years ago) and recently read in the tabloids that Nick Lachey and Vanessa Minillo got engaged (yay)..then within just a few days, his ex wife Jessica Simpson, goes on a press-spree and announces HER engagement to some ex football player.
Now I don't really think much about the whole concept of thunder stealing, but I seriously think this is as close as I have ever come to saying "yea that gal totally tried to steal her ex's thunder." I mean, Nick and Vanessa have dated for years, and she dated this guy for a few months...
Have you ever gone thru something like this? Has your ex or your FI's ex suddenly announced an engagement near the time of the announcement of your engagement? Do you think Jessica had (ahem) poor taste in doing this? Should she have sucked it up and waited a few weeks before letting the cat outta the bag?
I personally think she should've zipped the lips for a few weeks, but that's just me.