Post # 1
SMH! I know shame on me for not checking sooner. I had done this SO many times when researching neighborhoods/schools/stats (I have a stepdaughter) I guess we fell in love with this house/neighborhood and put an offer on the spot that it slipped my mind to check meghans law site. I know virtually no neighborhoods are free of sex offenders(have you looked? SoCal is riddled with them!) Anyways although it IS a bummer, I have always had the mindset of no matter your location to ALWAYS assume theres a predator around the corner i.e. only play in the back yard, no riding your bike past the driveway, heck I don’t even let her have sleepovers at other parents houses, I insist they come to ours. Tell me where you stand on this?
Post # 3
I worked at a Child Advocacy Center and after seeing all of it I think parents should be protective. Most perps are people you know and trust unfortunately. They work to build trust with the family & child so the child wont tell & the parent feels comfortable being with the person being around. BUT it is good to take precautions!
Post # 4
i think its important to know the crime if possible – i thought a 18yr guy could be a registered sex offender if he had sex with his less than 18yr girlfriend (im not sure what is the legal age limit for all states)
Post # 5
Yah, you should really take into consideration what the offense is. People can be put on the sex offenders list for really petty things ex: peeing in public in the wrong place.
Post # 6
I think this is SO close minded. You need to know what the crime was.
Post # 7
I do know what the crime was, and thanks for your choice of words
Post # 8
I agree that you have to be vigilant, just because your neighbors aren’t on the official list doesn’t mean they aren’t creeps!
Post # 9
This law bothers me. Regardless, you could check the registry and find a house in a “perv”-free zone and the day after you close a “perv” moves in next door. Maybe renting is a better choice.
Post # 10
This is true! I guess a perv could move in/out of a neighborhood at anytime. what can you do, not much I guess.
Post # 11
I just looked up the local offenders in my zip code and I got a pretty large list but clicking on a few of them it was a petty crime… nothing to do with a child at all… some of them were pretty disturbing though. It depends what the crime is for sure. I have none within the same block or even street but what’s totally blowing my mind right now is that one of them that has an intense crime against children lives exactly a block in front of my sons school… ahhh seriously why!?
Post # 12
You would be surprised at how many people make it onto the sex offender’s registry for crimes that aren’t against children or other humans (aka being a wasted college student and wandering into someone’s yard naked).
Most of the people on that registry are just people trying to recover and move on with their lives. I dont think it is fair that this stigma follows them for the rest of thier lives–prevents them from getting jobs and finding good places to live. They also deal with a lot of mistreatment from neighbors/anyone who finds out they’re on the list. MOST sex offenders at MOST prisons go through rehabilitative treatment and are trying to move forward.
This would stop me from getting my “dream home.”
ETA: I am not telling you to not be careful or to not be protective of your children. Of course, your family is paramount. I am just giving you the other side of the story.
Post # 13
This sort of thing bothers me too, but they are very carefully monitored. I worry more about someone with a low profile who the cops aren’t monitoring and tracking. I know like for example at our public school they have a cop present when children are leaving and entering the building, everyone has to sign in and out, everyone is on camera. I can’t control where people live, but I can control being the most safe and vigilant mother I can possibly be.
Post # 14
Thanks bees, my question is aswered. We will never have control of where the registered ones are, and even worse the ones lurking that have never been caught. All we can do is protect against any possibilities. thanks again 🙂
Post # 15
I think it is always best to be cautious. Yes all nieghborhoods have creeps living in them but they can be anyone from the registered sex offender living with his/her mom, or the quiet old grandpa living next door, that you frequently say hello to. I believe to never fully trust anyone except of course your well trusted relatives. Children are way too precious to throw trust around, thats for sure.
Post # 16
This wouldn’t deter me in the least from my dream home. Nor would it keep me from letting my children play outside or go to sleepovers. Obviously you have to be vigilant but you can’t lock your children away so that they don’t experience life.