Post # 1
Bees, I’m at my wit’s end! We’re only 3 weeks out from my wedding, time is running out, and my mom can’t find a dress that (a) doesn’t look like a bridesmaid’s dress, or (b) look too casual. She hasn’t listened to any of my suggestions, and I feel like I can’t say anything or I’ll hurt her feelings. She’s also expressed extreme concern about “embarrassing” me with her attire at the wedding because her taste is so different from mine.
The wedding is formal and she is picking out too-short, too-tight, overly busy cocktail dresses from stores that don’t really have formal options, rather than the sleek, tailored, understated look that I’m going for. She wants to wear a dusky pink but there’s hardly anything in that color right now. Should I just give up and have her wear an LBD? Do I mandate a specific dress? Do you have any dress suggestions or advice on how to handle this?
Post # 3
@CandieC88: do you have time to take her shopping? maybe if you are with her you can steer her away from the ones you think are inappropriate.
davids bridal has a section on their website for “mothers and special guests” – maybe see if you and your mom can agree on something you both like? At least those dresses would likely be formal enough and not too short.
Post # 4
@CandieC88: I agree with the above commenter! Go shopping with her! Thats what I did with my mum. She was worried that whatever she would buy wouldn’t mesh witht he wedding, but I knew she would be okay. It was a great bonding experience.
I would definitely say our styles are different but she and i both know what looks good on us so as long as you both can relax a little you should be able to work through it. If she is choosing something too short too tight, maybe you could show her a pic of what your future mother in law is wearing.
And yes a LBD is always a good option too!
Post # 5
@emstar168: Thanks for the David’s Bridal tip! I like a lot of the styles on there…I’ll forward it to her and see if she can find something.
@Jacofblues: Good call…MOG has amazing taste and has 2 great dresses she’s choosing between.
As for shopping with her…unfortunately she lives 2.5 hours away from me and I work CRAZY hours, and it’s such a short time from the wedding there’s no way we could go together. I’ve already sent her emails with 15 examples of different appropriate styles, and she’s still choosing dresses that are way off base. So I don’t know if it’s an issue of not listening to me, or trying to fight me on it, or lack of choices in stores, etc.
Post # 6
I put my mom in a conservative LBD. I think it was actually a Jasmine dress. It is knee length and has pencil skirt shape so it shows off her rockin’ figure yet it covers everything. I love it.
This is a big day for your mom too. I think you should let her wear what she wants. After all, all eyes will be on you, not her. People will know who picked it out.
ETA: in response to your last reply, it sounds like she is just planning to wear what she wants anyway. She just wants your blessing.