Post # 1
Hey all, I’m new here and on the hunt for stories from people who have had a similar experience to mine! After knowing each other for 9 months and dating for about 5, my boyfriend didn’t so much propose as one day he just looked at me after dinner and said “Hey, let’s get married.” It wasn’t exactly a surprise since he had been talking about his intentions since nearly day one, and we also got the ‘is this a serious relationship or not’ discussion out of the way pretty early on. To our credit we get along fabulously, and we have both have had our share of bad previous relationships, so we have the advantage of knowing more or less exactly what we want and don’t want in a future spouse.
It doesn’t help that he is from (and now I am living in) a culture where we are both definitely approaching his “shelf life” as far as getting married is concerned… which is not a good reason to rush to the altar, but there you have it. I can’t pretend it’s not a factor. He has a steady job, a house, and is defintely emotionally ready. As for me, well, my brain is saying “Too fast!” but my feelings are saying “Why not? You wanted to marry him anyway!”
Well, to abbreviate the story a bit, we are picking up my beautiful ring from the jewelers’ sometime next week, and after a bit of discussion we are looking at potentially getting married at the end of next year – we just have to sort out the mess of which country to do it in. I’ve already told my mom about this, and she has wished me well. I’m at a bit of a loss as to how to tell my friends, however, since I am pretty sure I am going to get a lot of funny looks and “Are you sure about this?”‘s from them, even though plenty of them have told me over and over again how much of a keeper this guy is. I figure I will just start wearing my ring and not make such a big deal out of it…
Anyway, those of you who have had fast proposals – what’s your story? How did you tell your friends, and what were their reactions? Did the engagement last, and if you’re already married, how is it working out for you? Whether your experience be good or bad, I want to hear about it 🙂
Post # 3
My proposal was a bit disappointing to be honest. It’s something I’ve broached with my Fiance because I haven’t felt like he’s done anything to show me that getting married is something that means a lot to him.
Essentially, he blames time. His best friend got engaged over Christmas, which got him thinking about getting married. Then he said he saw a ring on sale, but it would only be on sale until midnight, so he picked it up. Only a few days later, I found out my mom’s cancer was terminal. So rather than waiting and planning something more grand…he pretty much just asked me while we were sitting on the couch watching TV one morning. I was wearing a snuggie. And his words were, “So…I got you this the other day. I was hoping you’d be my wife.”
I can understand the need for things to move more quickly because he knows it’s very important to me for my mom to be there, which is why our engagement is so short. But I still kind of wish he’d taken me out to dinner or something. Anything. I’ve talked to him about this some, but I don’t think he understands the value of it since it was pretty much assumed we’d get married at some point. I’m hoping that in time, memories of the wedding will be special enough to make up for the proposal, and maybe I will become more fond of the story over time.
We called my parents and told them and told his parents in person that day. He had already told most of his friends and family he was proposing, so they knew and were really excited for us when we told them (we went to a ST Patricks Day BBQ a friend was having, which was a great way to tell a bunch of people at once). I called some of my friends, about 90% of whom said something like “It’s about time!” or “I knew you were going to get married eventually, ever since we were Freshmen in college.”
Post # 4
We got engaged 10 months after we met. He got down on his knee with a ring and asked so it was pretty standard and he proposed in our house. We lived together a few months after we met. We had a long engagement (a year and a half) then a beautiful wedding with about 100 friends and family. Everyone knew wed get married they all said they could see we were meant to be from the start. We met 2 years and 2 months to the day before we got married. We have done great so far. 🙂