Fat arms: Dress with sleeves or Dress with added shrug?

posted 5 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
46230 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congratulations on your weight loss. You should be so proud of yourself.

Sleeves can look great if they are loose enough so the material is not pulling or tight, and

they do not end right at the fattest part of our upper arm. Cap sleeves and short sleeves can be particularly unattractive. Elbow length is very flattering.

Check out this post. There are some good ideas:

Anyone else HATE their arms as much as me!? Which dress did you get?


Post # 4
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

your arms look fine!!!!! seriously they dont look bad! have confidence and you could SO ROCK your dress without sleeves or a shrug!!! my arms are bigger then yours and Im wearing a stapless dress 🙂 Its all about the confidence! Everyone else will think you look beautiful, YOU just have to think YOU look beautiful

Post # 5
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am in a similar boat. After I lost weight my arms still lacked the tone and tightness of people who never had a weight problem. They don’t look awful though (and neither do yours)..I’m going strapless. I have a summer wedding and straps/sleeves just drew attention to the area. If I were you I’d go without sleeves or a shrug. You can totally rock it 🙂

Post # 7
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would think sheer sleeves would be good. Any material too bulky will actually just add width to your arms. And you’d have to walk a thin line between having them so tight it draws attention to them, and having them too loose so that they make your arms appear larger than they are.

Post # 8
3697 posts
Sugar bee

CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss – you should be so proud of yourself!

I think you would look lovely in something with sheer sleeves. My gown had a removable long-sleeved part, and it was great because it gave me a lot of flexibility: I wore the sleeves for the ceremony and took them off for the reception.

Post # 9
1841 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Flutter sleeves? I like the inspiration you posted as well. 

Post # 10
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@evlpc:  I love this pic! 

i agree with the sleeves, besides how it looks (great or not) I would reccomend going with what you feel best in. if you are going to feel more confident and comfortable in the sleeves I would go with that.

Post # 11
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Also, FWIW: wearing sleeves does not automatically equal “covering up a flaw” – think of Grace Kelly, Jacqueline Kennedy, Duchess Kate … lots of iconic, incredibly classy wedding gowns have sleeves. They also automatically make a dress unique these days, when 99.5% of the gowns out there are strapless. So don’t feel like if you get a gown with sleeves you are advertising that you’re hiding something. Whatever gown you get, I hope you love it on its own terms, but “give sleeves a chance!” Wink

Post # 13
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i am dealing with the exact same problem right now. I am one of those girls who NEVER wears short sleeves. I always have a cardigan on even in the summer. I think i am just going to wear my bolero so i don’t worry about how i look. I figure if i feel more confident in how i look it will shine though.

Post # 14
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hate my arms as well….even if everyone else says they’re okay, I know I would be uncomfy wearing a strapless/sleeveless dress in front of 100 people for 7 hours.  When I went dress shopping I went looking for a dress with a bolero because I love the look of sleeveless dresses, but I wanted something fun that I could pair with it and hide my arms.  I didn’t consider sleeves, because bolero’s are easier to find and you can try them on with the dress instead of having to use your imagination on how sleeves would look — plus most sleeves are cap sleeves which don’t do anything but accentuate bad arms.

This is what I came away with — the bolero came with the dress, but most stores carry numerous types of jackets…plus when it’s four hours into the party and you’re feeling more comfortable, if you decide to, you can take the jacket off.

Post # 16
43 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I had the same problem but I didn’t want to wear a bolero or jacket as I didn’t want it to be obvious that I was trying to hide my hideous arms, so I found a dress with sleeves…

Post # 17
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am much bigger than you, but ended up making a shrug to go with my strapless dress. I think most people assumed it was part of the dress 

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