Fat Bride Blues

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Screw what other people think. That dress is gorgeous, and you’ll look gorgeous wearing it! Nobody’s dress fits perfectly at any size – that’s what alterations are for.

If anyone gives you any grief for wearing what makes you feel beautiful on your wedding day, uninvite them. Seriously. There’s no need for negativity in your life.

Really, though, your ankles are your best feature to these people? What a ridiculous thing to say.



Post # 3
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Coming from a person that doesn’t know you or have seen you and honestly doesn’t care if I hurt you with my opinion, but that dress is beautiful and you should wear it! There are some beautiful plus size brides out there! “Here is an article about dress shopping. I know you already found your dress, but the author is your same size and I personally think she looks great in all the dresses she tries on! And I can only imagine that you will too. I will say, coming from a size 14 bride with big boobs, that having a sweatheart neckline helped me feel more comfortable. But thats just me.

Fuck those people with those negative comments. I don’t know what it is about wedding and having babies, but both life events seem to make people drop their filters.

You will look amazing. Good luck on your current weightloss btw!

Post # 4
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

Congratulations on finding a dress you love!  I’m sorry that you are not getting more support from your loved ones though.  Dress shopping for us plus sized ladies (or really anyone who has issues with how their body looks) can be tough.  I had a hard time (size 18 also).  I still am having a hard time.  I love my dress but I do not love how I look in it.  If you found a dress that you love and you love how you look in it…who care what everyone else has to say!  They are not the ones wearing it.  Good luck to you!

Post # 5
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My dress is a bridal 16 (I’m street 12/14 depending on the time of the month…) drop waisted A-line tulle ballgown and I love it. I think you will be lovely in your dress! A-line is a very flattering fit.

Post # 6
41 posts

Zephi:  if its your dream dress and you love it and your fiancé loves you tell them they are shitty friends. It’s your day and they have no right trying to change you or hide you behind their judgemental ideas of what should be done on your day. 

Well done on the weight lose and not taking the pressure to do stupid things for quick fixes. You will succeed in your goals cause you love yourself

Post # 7
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

And what you say in response? clearly, you need to start  snapping back and letting people know thsse comments arent appreciated.

Post # 8
39 posts

Your wedding, your choice. I did a Google Image search for that dress and think it looks great on the bigger girl – very hourglassy.

People are being very rude pointing out your weight or size and usually I would ask what the heck do they think gives them the right but I know the answer. Weddings. Weddings seem to make people think they have the right to be as rude as they like!

Post # 9
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Zephi:  Oh honey. I wish I could give you a hug. I think at this point you should be proactive when showing people pics of the dress (if you can’t avoid it entirely) and say something like, “I don’t want to hear any negative comments. Please think of something positive to say and keep the criticisms to yourself. Thanks!” in a bright voice before you show them. People should know better than to say negative things about a dress you’ve already purchased, because that’s just unkind.

Remind yourself that instead of being fat, you could be unkind.

Post # 10
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I tried on–and almost bought–that dress. It is gorgeous and very flattering (most A-lines are). You need to come up with some kind of comeback to these people that shames them while leaving you in the clear. “I have a beautiful dress and I am thrilled to be wearing it to marry the love of my life. Why do you think it is okay to say these things to me?” Place the onus on them for being, frankly, really inappropriate.

Post # 11
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

First, I get the weight struggle.  I’m a lifetime WW member (sometimes I’m well over my goal for that status – like right now.)  I know it will be a lifetime battle for me.  You aren’t alone. 

Second, I popped the style number into google image search to see the dress.  And there are tons of girls of all shapes and sizes in that dress.  Real women, not models.  And they all look great.  You will too.  You’re marrying the love of your life that day, you’re surrounded by those who love you most.  Who cares what # is on the tag of the dress, I doubt you will that day. 

Post # 12
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

Zephi:  I see no reason why you won’t look beautiful in that dress. I am so sorry that people are being like this. Honestly though, I am for calling people out on asshole behavior. Next time someone makes a comment about your size or shape, you need to tell them that what they are saying to you is thoughtless and hurtful. 

Post # 13
715 posts
Busy bee

Zephi:  Sorry to hear others are making you feel bad about yourself & good that you are taking steps in a healthier direction. I think that dress is beautiful and I think you’ll totally rock it 🙂 go for what you like  & I am sure you’ll look beautiful. Beauty comes in a lot of different sizes…. <br />Speaking of which: Have you had a look at this thread? there are so many beautiful pictures… http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/plus-size-full-figured-brides-lets-see-your-pictures/#axzz36b7MgIIR

Post # 14
1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

People will ALWAYS have something to say but what you should always keep in mind is how YOU feel in the dress. Does it make you feel beautiful? When you have the dress on do you get goose bumps and chills? If so then I say you are on the right track. This is a day about you and your FI spending your lives together so what anyone else may think is of no consequence!

Post # 15
25 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

“Every single day as the wedding gets closer I start to think about canceling it or making it a very private affair and only invite the immediate family if we invite anyone at all.”<br /><br />Please, please don’t hide yourself away! That makes me so sad, not just that they’d make you doubt your own wedding dress choice, but that they’d make you feel too ashamed to even appear at your own wedding. All I can do is reiterate what others have said; the dress is a gorgeous one, and flattering on all body types (absolutely including yours!). Buy your favourite dress, enjoy your wedding day, and please remember that you will be a beautiful bride.

P.S. Lovely ankles? Ugh.


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