I know there are a million fat shaming posts, and I’m jumping on board.
I was on tumblr and saw a video on fat shaming posted by a fitness blog. I watched it, and was floored. Remember that everyone has their own journey and experiences, and find empathy towards everyone around. This video PROVES that making someone feel bad for being “fat” only makes it worse.
I’m fat and I hate my body, but I am not ashamed because it is mine, and mine alone.
I am somewhat overweight, not so much now as I used to be, but I’m still a size 14/16. I’ve lost 20 pounds and I’m proud of myself for that, but I still struggle. I wish people would realize that making fun of me or commenting rudely about my size, or anyone’s size, is not going to make me or anyone else thin. People need support, not shame.
@SouthernGirl: I’m around that size too.., people laughing at me when I work really hard to be healthy is so discouraging, but in the end I try to remember I’m doing this for ME and FH, not anyone else 🙂
@agdluvstx: That is the most important thing I think. When I started losing weight, I had a bunch of people say that it must be for the wedding. No, it just happened to fall around that time, but I finally decided that I wanted to be healthier. I have really high blood pressure, and I’m only 23, so I know that I need to do this for myself.
@Chrysoberyl: I agree 1000%. I just think that with all the topics on overweight brides lately that everyone can actually see the effects it can all take. I have such love for him for being able to speak up for bigger people everywhere
@agdluvstx: I loved his raw, blunt candor in the video: “…your hate-filled bullshit isn’t going to make a difference either way.”
Even as a non plus-sized individual, I rage at the posts, articles, etc. filled with ~faux-concern~ for fat people. IMO, these are typically pathetic humblebrags wrapped in transparent superiority complexes sprinkled with saccharine derision…with a side of jumbo shit-stirring.
I do hope more people watch his video. It truly convicted me and made me realize that I need to examine my own opinions and actions.
@MlleFabuleux: Me too… IMHO some people get so caught up with rings, dresses, photographers and the faux concern, like you said, that they don’t take the time to sit back and actually evaluate what’s going on in their lives and other’s.
@PinkPinstripes: Anorexia and bulimia are serious issues as well, that also do not need to be swept under the rug- but that doesn’t mean anyone (besides a health care professional) has a right to say something to someone based on their weight.
The only time it’s okay to comment on it anything weight-related if they ASK you for your opinion. Otherwise, sorry, it’s none of your business. You don’t know their struggle, and you don’t know whether they’ve been trying to do better or not- your ‘helpful concern’ could push them back into a spiral of unhealthy choices. (Also, his ‘friend’ was commenting on how disgusting he was, in addition to how he was ‘concerned for his health’- that’s not coming from a place of concern; that’s being a jackass).