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Father and Daughter Dance Dilemma

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    gettingnervous    August 30th 2008   Michigan

    Alright Everyone, I need some help.  Actually, I just need someone to tell me it's OK. 

    When it came time to start thinking about the song for the father-daughter dance, I totally blanked.  There isn't a significant song I think of when I think of my dad.  The only thing I could think of is the song "Kiss Me"  by Sixpence None the Richer.  He's always said that song makes him think of me; a sweet little girl trying to lure a love interest into the woods, or something like that. 

    So, do I choose a song called "Kiss Me" to dance with my father, despite the fact it screams incest, or just choose a random song, full of emotion, like butterfly kisses?  And if so, does anyone have any suggestions besides the obvious?

    Thanks, Shaina

     
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    Angiepie    February 28, 2009   Makawao, Hawaii

    Well, it is your wedding...so you should be able to decide what is or is not appropriate. However, just from an outsider's perspective, if I went to a wedding and heard that song for the daddy/daughter dance...I may get the heeby jeebes. Of course, if you wedding is small and everyone really knows each other and knows that there isn't going to be an sort of sexual implication...go for it. My dad says the song "Pretty Woman" reminds him of me...but I wouldn't dance with him to that song during my wedding. I guess it really depends on the audience. OR maybe the DJ could make an announcement about how that song reminds your father of you as a little girl. That would make the audience understand a lot better! Wow. This is a toughie..good luck!

     
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    WinniBride    9/27/08   Meredith, NH

    I feel the same as Angiepie. As far as a suggestion - I'm dancing with my dad to Paul Simon - Father & Daughter...it's not a super slow song and I think the lyrics are so great.

     
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    jenniferb    October 11, 2008   Tucson, AZ

    I'm in a similar situation, and you know what...I'm going for it.  my dad and I always dance to "I've got you under my skin" by Sinatra.  The lyrics are probably more for lovers than father & daughter, but thats the song we dance to and thats the song we will dance to. 

    Maybe have the dj introduce you two and have him give an intro about how your father always thinks of you when he hears the song!  I think it is sweet and if you and your dad are happy, thats all that matters!

     

     
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    ustwiggie    June 1, 2009   Saint Louis/New Delhi

    Hi,

    I'm really sorry you're in this situation.  I agree with Angie that it's a total toughie.  I'd reccomend you find another song though, because the fact that you need to turn to weddingbee for advice on it shows you're not really comfortable with it, and everyone wants you to be 100% happy with the choices you make for the significant parts of your wedding day.

    I'm not sure what your music style is, but I'll give some alternative options with little descriptions as to why they'd be good for a father daughter dance.

    "Video"-India.Aire: a song with a funky, pretty sound about being a beautiful, strong, independant woman; your dad WAS part of raising you to be who you are, so this might be nice

    "Hold My Hand"-Hootie & the Blowfish: a little bit of a rock and maybe a hint of country, this is about two people taking a walk together and helping each other through life, all it says about love is "I wanna love you the best that I can," which I'm sure you and your dad feel for each other

    "Life is Wonderful"-Jason Mraz: nice slower song

    "Little Wonders"-Rob Thomas: again, a nice slowish song

    "Que Sera Sera"-Sly & The Family Stone- this song is SO beautiful, but it also has that satisfying funk or blues feel, and would make a really nice father daughter because it talks about a little girl, asking as she grows up what she'll be;  and goes on to talk about as she grows up how she falls in love and has her own children, and still keeps asking the same questions, but realizes the future isn't hers to see. I think its incredibly good.  aww, if I was having a father daughter dance, I would choose this.

    Anyways, hope that helps.  If you have windows media player, I could send you any of the songs, just pm me.

     
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    Smithie71    October 2008   Cambridge, MA

    I was squeamish about using a regular love song, as many do have the potential to make people go "Ewwww!" if used for a father-daughter dance.  So we chose a song actually written for a daughter--"Daughter" by Peter Blegvad (although we're dancing to the Loudon Wainwright III version, as heard at the end of the movie "Knocked Up").  The lyrics are funny and not overly sappy--very appropriate for my dad and me.  I think it will be a little tricky to dance to, but we'll figure it out :)

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I think the idea of having the DJ announce the meaning behind the song is a great idea.

    You could write a paragraph for the DJ to read before you dance.

    I think it's more special to dance to a song with actual meaning to you, than to just pick one randomly that doesn't require explaination. 

     
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    Ranaki13    July 10, 2010   New England/Greece

    We've just decided on Slipping through my Fingers by Abba!

     
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    serasvictoria    August 7, 2010  

    @Winnibride: I am SO jealous! I wanted to dance to that song, but my dad nixed that idea saying it was too fast. :-(

    After showcasing about ten more songs I FINALLY got him to agree to In My Life by the Beatles. I don't think it is overly creepy, but maybe it is?

     

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