Post # 1
My biological father has ben absent most of my life and has just now resurfaced about 1 year ago. My uncle raised me and i call him “dad”. I want him to give me away and have a dance with me. But i do not want to take away my biological dads privlage to do this as well since i am his only daughter/child and i am trying to get to know him better. Im fine with both of them walking me down the isle, but i dunno about the
father-daughter dance. I have a song picked out for my uncle/dad (butterfly kisses), but i cannot find any song for my biollogical dad. there is a lot of tension between us. Truthfully, I don’t want any drama or hurt feelings if i dont give him a dance ither. SO that being said, Since i do not know him well, nor did he watch me grow up, alot of songs dont fit our
so-called relationship. Any suggestions? Or similar stories?
Post # 3
Welcome to the Hive! Maybe you should ask your bio-father if there is a song that makes him think of you and use that. It may end up being a real bonding moment for the both of you to hear something lovely that makes him think of you.
Post # 4
I Loved Her First by Heartland 🙂
Post # 5
I’d probably split the dance in half with each of them and also have the song changed when partners switch. What a nice choice to have to make,tho!
Post # 6
@ItWasntMe: That would be my pick as well.
My step-cousin feels like a full cousin because she was raised from the age of two by my uncle while her biological father was largely absent. At her wedding, she walked down the aisle with both her dad and stepdad – until she got halfway, at which point her biological father sat down.
I think it would be appropriate if your biological father got the first minute or so, at which point he very graciously handed you off to your uncle.
Post # 7
To honor your uncle who raised you, why not give him the first dance with the song you choose, and maybe something a little less emotional/serious for your father? I went to a wedding once where the groom danced with his mom to “I can’t smile without you” by barry manilow, it’s very upbeat happy song that doesn’t have lyrics about watching you grow up, etc.