- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So my mother and father got divorced when I was 2, and my dad has been at the very least, a vague idea for most of my life. I do speak with him now, but the person that he is, I wouldn’t even want to know him if he were just some man on the street.
Originally, I was going to have my Abuelo (Grandfather) walk me down the aisle because he was the father figure I always had growing up and he and I have an amazing relationship, but my mother wanted to. My mom and I have hit some serious bumpy roads along the way, but somewhere we met at a crossroads and decided to agree to disagree, we were different people, but that was okay. We didn’t need to like each other very much, but I love my momma!!!!! So she is going to be giving me away! Decision made!
Recently I was talking to my fiance and I made the declaration that I didn’t want to do a Father-Daughter dance because I didn’t feel like he deserved it, plus he isn’t giving me away (truly, I don’t even want him at the wedding, but I’ve already sent a Save the Date, so………..DOH!). So then I thought I would dance with my mom, but my fiance said that if I wasn’t going to dance with my father, then I shouldn’t do it at all, with anyone. In fact, he said he would forgo the Mother-Son dance if I didn’t do mine (this is his second wedding, so he’s letting me call the shots).
What do you all think about that? I’m trying to figure the logistics of it, without making myself to too terrible. Most people know the lack of relationship between us, so I don’t think they will be surprised, but…………thoughts?!