(Closed) Father envy

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: I understand where you’re coming from.  He’s not out of my life but we’re not close.  And I get really envious of girls who are so excited for their father to walk them down the aisle (mine’s not), have a father daughter dance (when we had dancing I was going to put up with it but it would have been uncomfortable), and as you said have their father happy to see them in their dress.  So I get where you’re coming from completely.  

Post # 4
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel ya! My father passed away when I was 13 and a lot of times I envy my SIL for the relationship she has with her dad πŸ™

Post # 5
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yup, me too.  My parents divorced about 9 years ago and I’ve maybe seen him 5 or 6 times since then and talked to him on the phone maybe 15 times (pretty sad I can count that.)  We all still live in the same city, but his new gf is PSYCHO and doesn’t like him talking to his children.  Idiots.  I always cry when I see father/daughter dances, knowing I won’t have that…in fact, I’m tearing up right now πŸ™

Post # 6
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.  My father and I did not speak for 5-6 years, and it wasn’t until about 2 years ago that we slowly started rebuilding our relationship (my Fiance actually had a big part in this).  My dad is somewhat in my life now but he acts uninterested in my wedding/life, and has not offered any contribution to the wedding (financial/emotional/time), and it makes me sad to think that he will not walk me down the aisle or dance with me.  My only advice is to stay strong, think about the people in your life who love you and care about you and your wedding, and be happy that you are marrying someone who one day will be a wonderful, doting father to your children. 

Post # 8
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I can understand that. My dad passed away when I was two. I have a brother who is 10 years older than I am, so he did the “fatherly” responsibilities during the wedding, including walking me down the aisle and we had a “brother/sister” dance.

Post # 9
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i don’t even know my father at all. don’t know his name and don’t know what he even looks like. my mom refuses to talk about him. period. such a taboo subject. once i asked her and she didn’t talk to me for a year. i get envious when people don’t appriciate what they have.

Post # 10
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve felt that way, my dad and are not close at all. When I feel this way I try to remember that I have a wonderful mother who will be walking me down the isle.  


Post # 11
759 posts
Busy bee

I can totally relate.  Actually I wish I had a mother and father.  My father has been out of my life for over 15 years, which was his choice not mine.  And my mother passed away almost 5 years ago and she was my very  best friend.  It’s tough sometimes.  πŸ™

Post # 12
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I do have a father but I wish I had a father that cared… I know i should be happy that I have one but he hates my Fiance and doesn’t care about the wedding AT ALL. He actually gets upset when I try to tell him anything about it. 

Post # 14
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: i absolutely know what you’re saying πŸ™

Post # 15
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not comparing my situation to yours by any stretch of the imagination because losing a father isn’t the same, and I wish you the best with your wedding! On the flip side, I have a father who I HATE and who has done horrible things to just about every member of my family but for some reason we can never seem to cut him out (we end up feeling bad or are afraid of losing my half brother in the process) and so now I have to do all of my wedding things with a man who disgusts me. He is so angry that I’m having my mom help walk me down the aisle and all I really want to say is “Eff you, you’re lucky I still talk to you”

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